Hi,
how have you been? Please forgive me for being silent for a while. This last
month was very special for me and my family. I would even say “specific” but
still special as well. Gorgeous news that we received just on New Year’s eve
gave impetus for a new whirl of our family life. Yes, a new page of the family
book. Our surrogate is there in Ukraine and she is pregnant. She is miles away
and we know almost nothing about her, still there’s a new-coming member of our
family there in her belly. Oh, I knew surrogacy is a challenge, but I didn’t
know HOW exactly it will feel like. It feels a bit awkwardly, indeed, even
though the same pleasant and marvelous as natural pregnancy. Maybe this is because
we still haven’t met our surrogate mum? I hope. Now it all feels a bit incomplete. You want to be there, you want to be in control, you want to be IN. But this is just lyrics.
I’d say:
emotional component. What about factual component? The
most evident fact about our surrogacy journey is that 12 weeks scan is
approaching and this time we are invited to be IN. This time we can travel
there to Kiev and be present at all scans, talk to managers and doctor, see the
results of all tests, and the last but not the least – to finally say Hello to the
woman who is pregnant with our baby. Even though she speaks no English, and we
know no Ukrainian, I hope we’ll enjoy this very first communication. I know
there will be an English speaking manager to help us translating, as well as at
all procedures in Kiev we had to pass through. BUT (oh, sure, how could we go
without this “magical” word But?) my husband is now on his business trip. He
returns only in three days and he is still uncertain about his plans for the
next week. Also, this time I would like to leave Den at home with grandma so we’ll
have to adjust our schedules as well.
I
try to be loyal to myself and my inner voice says not to get frustrated even if
it doesn’t work and we won’t be able to travel. Still I hope we will. I want to
see my baby on the monitor with my own eyes, this is an important milestone of
the whole journey, isn’t it?
This is sweet, luv, enormously sweet! I mean expectation when you see your baby first..I had my hands trembling. Dh tried to calm me down but I really couldn't cope with my feelings. We were waiting for this scan seems forever. And here we saw our baby..So tiny and cute. Sleeping in his comfortable home..I'm so thankful our surrogate took perfect care of him. Moreover, I knew she loved him too..And this made me cry..Later she told she thought it's no good telling the IP about how she feels about carrying their baby and that she loved him. She was afraid I'd get jealous or frustrated as she ''had no right'' for doing this..What a sort of thing! She's truly amazing! She cared about everything: while baring our baby for us she was thinking how not to hurt my feelings, oh sweet honey she is!! I told it was ok, furthermore I was happy our baby is loved by all of us and this made me the happiest person in the world. That talk put everyone's mind at ease...
ReplyDeleteJust love the way the kind lady explains things on https://surrogacybiotexcom.blogspot.com/2018/02/record-of-webinar-top-mistakes-within.html
DeleteAnastasia, Head of English Department, is talking about common problems caused by mistakes our patients can make when they are going through surrogacy, in order to make your surrogacy process at BioTexCom more positive. Here is the list of some issues mentioned in this webinar:
1. You do not read attached documents and do not follow the recommendations there. 2. You do not provide full information, especially when we talk about assessment of possibility of stimulation 3. You do not check visa arrangements between our countries 4. You do not confirm the dates of initial consultation before booking of your tickets 5. In case of ovarian stimulation you ignore our requirement to obtain authorization for hormonal stimulation, especially if there were oncological diseases or heart/kidney/blood conditions. 6. You arrange the things to be finished exactly by the day of delivery indicated in the ultrasound check , without supposition that it might be premature delivery, or normal delivery but on the 36th or 38th week 7. You ignore our recommendations to visit special classes for new parents while you’re still at home and when you come here you’re scared of your own babies 8. You ignore the final checklist of our coordinators – with exact and very clear recommendations what documents have to be prepared from your side for the exit process 9. You do not use the benefits of our emergency 24/7 helpline and become frustrated of coordinators not answering you in the middle of the night 10. You do not provide exact instructions to housekeeping staff and babysitter 11. You do not follow doctor’s protocol and start self-treatment 12. You do not inform us about changing of your plans and/or time limits 13. You expect that the date of the second visit will be calculated during the initial consultation 14. You expect us to do miracles and achieve pregnancy from 1 shipped embryo of poor quality 15. You want to pay and book egg donor earlier than you come for the initial consultation 16. Logistics: arranging logistics the very last moment 17. Incorrect understanding of such concept as waiting time – not from when you signed, but from when you paid 18. When you get scared after program coordinator invites you to the procedure and you have the sperm frozen in the clinic 19. Embryoprotocol date – when you expect it to be sent the same day. Lab may finish their work late 20. Public maternity house doesn’t mean that it is going to be a bad maternity house 21. Please mind the time difference – we work with the whole world.
What do you think, judging from your personal experience??
I'm glad you've experienced it this way. Good for you and for your surrogate. She must be a truly kind woman!
DeleteTo cut long story short, we came to Ukraine for surrogacy. We're unexplained. Never felt of with neither previous GP or Dr. They used to confuse things. I had to explain literally twice before getting any answers. that was quite annoying. Their professionalism is definitely questioned..We switched after multiple failures with them.
Flew to Ukraine is order to find the package which does suit our pocket and expectations. I feel I'll not be able to face bfn or mc again..this time we're applying for surrogacy. I believe a younger than me woman/ stronger and with ''proven fertility'' has better chances to help our family. I'm putting all my hopes in this surrogacy journey. Found this blog. It's been quite a time span since the last post here, but find it helpful to know others got luck with the place we're going to.
We've been accepted for ICSI after it was discovered that my partner had low morphology. We've been advised that the appointment is 1 hour long and we have a further appointment for counselling the week after. Also from our first appointment how long does it normally take to actually start the whole process i.e. Starting medication, scans etc. We are being treated at Biotexcom clinic, Kiev. Anyone had any experiences? Anything to be aware of? Any useful questions to ask to make things clear? Feeling quite anxious about the whole thing. But what makes things good is that I've read positive reviews more than so-so ones. and for those percentage of ''not good'' the worst were Biotex is slow at communication. Sth like you have to wait a couple of days for them to answer your e-mails etc. But truly, this doesn't bother me much. It seems to be a popular place. so that's ok there are lots fo people waiting for responses. And if after all waiting you get the baby into hands - than it's worthy. Any thoughts?
Delete12 weeks scan is a great event for the family! Firstly, 'cause you see your tiny member of the family luckily strong and healthy. You watch hism moving his own way. Our boy didn't want to show first he WAS a boy. He was trying to hide. But our dr managed to find the right angle and see our MAN-lol. He was amazing. From the first moment I saw him I fell in love with him forever. I felt blessed after all the tricky way we had to pass, I did feel blessed with my tiny sweet boy. My only wonder. My hugest achievement. My greatest success. I know how worrying this date could be. You meet your baby ''officially''. You get to know about the details of the pregnancy and how your baby feels inside the surrogate. You become totally involved into the process.
ReplyDeleteThe 12 week baby scan may be your first in-depth look at Baby and is the start of the second trimester. It’s an important time because your Baby’s already fully formed, from their head down to their toes. Aside from the excitement of seeing Baby, the scan gives you and your doctor important details on how baby is developing. What the 12-week scan allows you and your doctor to see. Firstly, how many babies you are having. Secondly, measure baby’s body, arms, head, legs and some of the internal organs such as kidneys too. Then measure baby’s heartbeat. We were explained at BioTexCom it is usually around 160bpm at 12 weeks. Check the nuchal translucency, which is fluid and skin along the back of baby’s neck. This measurement is taken to help find potential chromosomal abnormalities, such as Down’s Syndrome.
ReplyDeleteYou’ll be able to watch the transducer transmit black, white, and gray images to a monitor. It may be difficult for you to figure out what all the images are showing. but the sonographer will explain what is happening. If baby positioned well, they may be able to get 3D/4D images of baby too.
At 12 weeks, baby measures three inches in length. you’ll be able to see them moving, stretching, bouncing around. Baby’s nose and chin are easy to see. Male genitals can sometimes be seen at this stage. but they only appear as a small nub between the legs! So you’ll need to wait until the 20-week anomaly scan to determine if you’re having a boy or girl. In summary, the 12-week scan only takes 15 minutes. It’s a fun time to lie down in a peaceful, dim room and enjoy the first look of your little baby developing inside your surrogate.
All the best of luck!
ReplyDeleteLadies, today was one of the best days of my life. I finally heard the words ''Congratulations you're pregnant. '' Thank you to all of you who sent me messages and were thinking of us today. I've never been so nervous and I've jumped out of a plane at 15'000 ft, so that has to tell you something. I'm not one for crying tears of joy but boy did I cry big fat joyfilled tears today. I hope everyone on this same ardous journey gets their BFP's one day very soon. Good luck!! xoxo
Delete12 wks of pregnancy is a wonderful period! Baby at 12 wks is opening and closing his/her fingers and curling toes. And baby's brain is developing fast! Baby's now developing reflexes. If you poke your belly while looking at baby on an ultrasound, you'll likely see movement. Also here are some common symptoms to look out for. Headaches. Those are mainly caused by low blood sugar levels. (If you ever needed an excuse to snack, it’s pregnancy!) With my first pregnancy my headaches were really bad. So I had to take some pregnancy safe pain relief. Also this was fatigue. 'Cause I was nearing the end of the first trimester. But my body seemed still exhausted from growing the baby. I just rested up when I could. And got ready for that energy burst that’s expected during trimester two!! I know this time is gonna be much different. This is our surrogate who's more likely to experience all those things. But I'm so lucky I have had those once in my life. So that I know how it feels. So that I could value the job the surrogate will do for us. Like thousands of others like me. May god bless them. Hope to read only good news further.
ReplyDeleteAll those scans were very emotional for us. For our surrogate as well. I mean she once she had to have a full bladder for the scan. 'cause they wanted to make the ultrasound image clearer. I believe the dating scan usually takes about 20 minutes. I think most of times they book the surrogates is depending on the circumstances. Our 12 week scan was in the surrogate's 13w+5days, so nearly 14 weeks. But our 20 week scan was in week 19.
ReplyDeleteThe plan's always needed!! Decide on your course of action, such as “I will do IUI for six months, then one to three IVF cycles, move on to egg donation and finally adoption.” As painful as it may be, listen to your doctor’s advice when it’s time to move on. Get a second opinion, but don’t be so stubborn that you get stuck in one of the steps. There are unlimited ways to build a family. Does your heart burst every time you hold a baby? That’s all the proof you need to know that you will love any child placed into your arms. Trust that your heart is big enough. Surrogacy may seem scary at first, but let’s unpack it. How “perfect” was your family growing up? Do you have an alcoholic aunt? Diabetes in the family? ADHD? You think you’re the bee’s knees, but even you must admit that it would be nice if you were less anxious/better at math/had bigger eyes. And for those considering surrogacy, maybe there are some real advantages to not having to go through pregnancy and birth. Once I mourned the loss of my own genetics, I was able to have some fun. After prioritizing mental and physical health, I approached my choices like an art project. What features attract me? A sense of humour? Musical talent? Chestnut hair?..And here the real story starts..
ReplyDeleteSurrogacy costs can be significant. Because of the number of people and services required to complete a successful surrogacy, surrogacy can be expensive. Surrogacy requires you to let go of some control. While intended parents typically enjoy a greater sense of control and involvement than families pursuing adoption, you will need to relinquish some control and trust your surrogate to carry the pregnancy for you. Similar to a traditional pregnancy, surrogacy can take its toll on one’s body. Surrogates must undergo screenings. Attend interviews and appointments, and carry a baby for 9 months. During this time, gestational carriers are asked not to engage in any risky or strenuous physical activity that could endanger the pregnancy. Biotex takes good care of its surrogates. At the end of it all, the reward of delivering a new family member surpasses any temporary inconvenience.
DeleteHave a look at this one~
The cost of every program at bio tex com is divided into 6 payments - every payment is made on the certain stage of a program. The detailed payments schedule can be found in every contract and for your information it is also available in a separate document.
Standard Surrogacy Package (waiting time: up to 4 months) 39.900 euros. The Standard package provides:
Medical Part:
Medical tests and checks for all participants of the program (intended parents, surrogate
mother and egg donor).
Medications for all participants of the program (Intended Parents, Surrogate Mother and
Egg Donor).
Unlimited IVF cycles.
Pregnancy care (pregnancy monitoring) for the Surrogate Mother.
DNA paternity test in thier partnering laboratory.
PGD service to detect the possible genetic abnormalities (the sex of a baby(s) is not
detected).
The child’s doctor attends the baby every other day.
In case of miscarriage compensation to a surrogate mother is paid by them.
In case of the premature birth all the expenses related to additional medical treatment,
special medical equipment utilization etc. are covered by them from the day of birth.
Legal Support and Paperwork:
Surrogacy contract elaborations.
Support on the final stage of the process for obtaining of the birth certificate for a baby(s)
and travel documents for them to leave the country.
Organization and Coordination
Customers are provided with the babysitter services for 4 hours a day in a daytime.
Customers are provided with the support package: transportation, food, a room in the hotel
of higher class, smartphone and SIM card of Ukrainian mobile operator.
Accommodation is provided for two (2) months after birth.
The program doesn’t cover: twin pregnancy compensation (EUR 3000) though.
Guys at Biotex have a unique method of 3D modeling appearance of a child, using a three-dimensional model of the donor and the child's father. Each donor is fixed in the photo and video with the help of special 3D technology. On the basis of this material, an anthropometric and physiognomic portrait of the woman is created. Then her basic characteristics are digitized. After receiving the same data about the future father they are superimposed on each other. This way they can predict the possible appearance of a child!
ReplyDeleteYou might have read this too..
DeleteBioTexCom Center for Human Reproduction offers patients who are above 40 and for those, who suffer from low levels of AMH, an innovative program that makes it possible to get pregnant with their own eggs. Mitochondria replacement therapy is an innovation and a breakthrough in the field of ART and the fertility treatment. This program gives women, who underwent numerous unsuccessful IVF cycles, aged 40+, patients with low mitochondrial functional activity, an excellent chance to give birth to a child who shares a genetic relationship with her and her partner. Mitochondria do have a tiny bit of DNA but it is just used for making energy. The egg donor would contribute the DNA that is in the nucleus (the genome). This would have the genetics for eye color, height, personality, etc. etc. When we think of someone being genetically related, it’s the nuclear genome that we are thinking of, not the mitochondrial DNA. Do the embryo would be yours at least in the way we usually think about it. This approach is based on the idea that aging/poor eggs might not be genetically damaged but might be more out of steam/energy. Some results suggest that adding fresh mitochondria could rejuvenate eggs and help them to succeed.
I guess if it's this effective- there will be no need for donor eggs as it stays nowadays.
I'm sure some of these tips might be very useful for the surrogates who're carrying our babies.
ReplyDeleteA detox can be a really good way to get the body back into balance and ready for the IVF journey. Getting rid of all those toxins you have build up in your body over the years.
Then a well balanced diet will absolutely help chances of success. Try and prepare this before the transfer. The fertility diet will enhance the reproductive organs and ensure good quality blood supply to the uterus. Good quality blood supply to the uterus increases protein and nutrient secretion around implantation, which every embryo will love. Acupuncture is now, without a doubt, one of the best ways to enhance the success rates. It will reduce stress and increase blood supply to the reproductive organs. Studies have shown that women who had acupuncture before and after embryo transfer had a 44% success rate per cycle compared to 29% amongst those who did not. Other therapies such as reflexology, hypnotherapy, yoga, or massage can also help. Finally (under dr's supervision!!) taking a good quality multi-vitamin and mineral supplement which contains vitamins A, B, E and C complex, zinc, magnesium, selenium, iron and Co-enzyme Q10. Essential fatty acids are vitally important. Getting enough folic acid in everyday diet as research shows this prevents neural tube defects, such as spina bifida.
Here's my fertility journey. We did IUI’s and popped pills and ran more tests and had so much scheduled sex. We did this for years! We discussed adoption and fought about it all the time!!! It was so hard. Life was not good. We did IVF it failed. We couldn’t afford it, but we did it again. My younger sibling started families. I was an aunty over and over again. I again was fake happy and would cry myself to sleep all the time. I avoided the annoying rude family who would ask me constantly why we don’t have kids yet (I still kinda hate them).The end was near, we had one frozen embryo left. I was convinced we just needed to get it over with and move on with our lives..Not sure what that meant at the time. But I had convinced myself it was just over and we needed to transfer that last embryo and decide what we would do next. Maybe sell the stupid big house with empty bedrooms and move to a condo in the city. I didn’t know what we would do next because having a baby was all I had thought about for so so long. For years and years a baby and a family was the plan!
DeleteI would expect your would need an internal scan. Depending on the equipment, how full her bladder is but mostly her bmi, they are unlikely to see much at 7 weeks. Even on someone very slim! And if they can't see a heart beat through the tummy they would def do an internal scan. Plus you might find that 7 weeks by your calcs measures less in reality (due to long cycle etc etc). And even a few days makes a big difference in development at this stage!! Presuming everything is ok and your surrogate is actually 7 weeks then they should see a heart beat. Though bear in mind that if they don't it could be becasue you are measuring earlier than 7 weeks and they may bring your surrogate back in a week or so to rescan. They will explain all this. Sorry, hope none of this sounds too patronising, just tried to be helpful.
ReplyDeleteI know during this time baby's sex is becoming apparent. 12 weeks after conception, your baby's neck has become more defined and the lower limbs are well-developed. Red blood cells are forming in your baby's spleen. Your baby's sex will become apparent this week or in the coming weeks. By now your baby might be almost 3 1/2 inches (87 millimeters) long from crown to rump. weigh about 1 1/2 ounces (45 grams). So amazing!
ReplyDeleteOh yes, that's just what I've shared commenting another post. BioTexCom nurses are awesome when explaining things. Beisdes there's so much info on week by week development of the baby inside the womb! Talking about 12 wks scan here are the following: he Ears have moved up into their final position. The Mouth is moving and your baby can now swallow. The Heart has progressed and is now beating rapidly at about 165 beats per minute. The Umbilical Cord has evolved and is now transferring all vital nutrients from the surrogate's bloodstream. Absolutely magnificent process!!
DeleteHello, I just want to say that miracle do happens . We had scan today. and I was wake since 6am waiting for another 3 hours to get myself and hubby to see my little one knowing is doing well... My nouty baby didn't want to laydown on back...just on side faceing words us or turning on his/her stomach. It took us 35 min and me moving my hips. Just to get this photo for. only for a min that you still cannot see us much. It was amazing to see how much grow my baby!! I cannot wait for next scan to see again my little one! Ladies good things happens and miracle too!
ReplyDeleteThis moment is always touchy!! when you first meat the surro and you realize she's the one who's carrying your baby..Surrogates and intended parents invest a lot into their relationship with one another: time, energy, finances, trust and sacrifice. The intended parent-surrogate relationship is a unique commitment, and it is important to get to know your surrogate well before moving forward with a surrogacy plan.Even if your surrogate has been extensively screened, there are some things to keep an eye out for when you’re speaking with her. The majority of women who pursue surrogacy are genuinely excited to help build a family, but there may be women out there who are motivated for other, less altruistic reasons. Here are some red flags to look out for:
ReplyDeleteFocusing solely on the financial compensation as her reason for choosing surrogacy
Questioning the necessity of a legal contract or an attorney’s legal services
Communicating an unwillingness to talk about the surrogacy and pregnancy with friends and family
A lack of support from her partner or family
Rushing through the conversation, not asking their own questions or not seeming interested in getting to know you
Of course, not all of these may be ill-intended, but they should give you pause or require extra explanation from a prospective surrogate.
For most surrogates and intended parents it's a beautiful life-changing journey. This is the untold truth of gestational surrogacy.
ReplyDeleteSince surrogates carry for gay couples, straight couples, single mothers and single fathers, there are many different routes to creating a surrogate baby. Love this explanation: ''A gestational surrogate is a woman who undergoes IVF with an embryo that is not hers. She typically thickens her uterine lining and suppresses her ovaries using a combination of shots and pills, but the baby that is implanted in her womb does not share her DNA. The egg and sperm either belong to the baby's parents, or they belong to an egg or sperm donor. It's like bringing the ingredients for your grandmother's homemade pumpkin bread over to your friend's house. You might bake it in her oven, but it was your idea to bake and you brought all the ingredients, so it's your bread.''
It’s hard to quantify the endless supply of virtues surrogacy can provide.
DeleteThe most obvious benefit of surrogacy is its giving power. For various reasons, couples or individuals may not be able to have children on their own. This is a difficult problem to face as creating a family is a goal for most couples. Whatever obstacle a couple may face on their journey to creating a family, with the help of a surrogate and/or an egg donor/ donor's mitochondria (the unique method Bio Tex Com clinic has recently introduced to its patients), anyone can have a child! Surrogacy allows many intended parents to share a genetic tie with their child. Surrogacy can lead to a lifelong relationship between the surrogate, the intended parents, and the child. Surrogacy is often a better option than other fertility treatments. Depending on the various programs, surrogacy generally costs do vary extremelly, which rivals the cost of more invasive fertility treatments. Surrogacy also has a higher success rate than other fertility treatments, and with continued improvement of IVF procedures, surrogacy is only getting more successful. I believe, surrogates choose to carry other people’s children because they value life and the power of family.
Hey ladies. Your surrogacy clinic must be the medical professional guiding you through all of the steps of the surrogacy medical process, including:
ReplyDeleteEarly medical screening: In every surrogacy process, a surrogate must undergo a thorough medical screening to make sure that she is physically prepared for the process of surrogacy. This can include blood tests, saline sonograms and more. It’s likely that intended parents have already undergone medical testing to create embryos if they’ve worked with this surrogacy clinic for infertility treatments but, if they haven’t yet, they will also need to undergo certain tests to make sure they can create a healthy embryo with their eggs and sperm. Some surrogacy clinics will even offer psychological testing during this time, as well.
Gamete retrieval and IVF process: After intended parents and surrogates are medically cleared for the surrogacy process, a surrogacy clinic will guide them through the in vitro fertilization process. This will include everything from preparing the intended mother for egg harvesting, syncing up her cycle with the surrogate’s for a successful IVF transfer and more.
Pregnancy testing: After an embryo has been transferred to the surrogate’s uterus, the surrogacy clinic will test her blood and hormone levels to confirm a pregnancy with a more in-depth process than at-home pregnancy tests can provide.
Hope you all are in the right places. Babydust to all of you.
Unfortunately I’ve never been able to experience pregnancy myself. Due to fibroids in the uterus which sadly grew back, aged eggs of a very poor quality and the most heartbreaking thing of all – pregnancy is life-threatening in my case. We had to go donor egg surrogacy route. But here are some thoughts as for using them.
DeleteNo egg retrieval to endure.
When it’s time for genetic screening – less risk for down syndrome, trisomies, etc.
After heartbeat is seen the risk for miscarriage goes down to 7%.
I have someone to carry a baby when I am not able to.
So the main positive is being a mom and finally having the family I’ve always wanted!
Has anyone got any tips to help us all along the way? Long years in this and l am still finding out stuff l didn’t know!##
ReplyDeleteVitamin B6 does help your cycle get longer if it’s on the short side and you're worried about the length of your luteal phase. Well, it worked for me and my best friend (she strongly believes it assisted her in conceiving her 2nd child).
The NHS is a postcode lottery. I was going to get very little where we live, unless l could find a time machine to make me younger and / or get me back in time to start trying for a baby with my partner before l even actually started dating him!! Your GP is likely to not manage your expectations about this, they leave this dirty work to the hospital should you even get that far. You are best checking what the funding for your particular area offers; you might get 3 cycles of IVF if you meet a number of criteria (age, BMI under 30, certain FSH etc). You might get 1 (this is my area but they deem me too old at 39). Or nothing as they don’t give it anyone. They rarely follow NICE guidelines like they are meant to. If either of you have children, then you won’t get any treatment from the NHS either.
It’s very likely your GP won’t know the NICE guidelines so make sure you do. Our GP’s were reluctant to do any tests, after we had been trying for 7 months. Despite the fact NICE guidelines state that investigations should be done after 6 months of trying if the women is over 35 and 12 months if she is under 35. We reminded them of the NICE guidelines and magically they agreed.
A 2nd opinion about fertility tests / investigations is a good idea. Our GP’s said we would never get pregnant naturally with my partners sperm, a private clinic weeks later described it as “super sonic” and more than good enough to donate. Going private isn’t cheap for tests but their tests seem more advanced and accurate. My previous Gp seemed confused at my tests results in general!
Supplements and nutrition do apparently help. Especially vitamin D, folic acid and iron. We got a diagnosis of unexplained infertility so l'm now going to try taking royal jelly and ubiquinol to try to improve my egg quality.
What are your tips, if any??
Gestational surrogacy helps those who are unable to have children become parents. It’s a process that requires medical and legal expertise. As well as a strong support process throughout the journey. Through IVF, embryos are created in a lab at a fertility clinic. The intended parents usually use their own genetic material. Sometimes, an egg donor is required. At the fertility clinic, 1-2 embryos are implanted into a gestational carrier, who carries the baby(ies) to term. Gestational carriers have no genetic relationship to the children they deliver. Which is the core point personally for me, as we're moving this path as well. The most important step is to look at the preparation of your body and mind for this up coming journey, a journey to create life , a journey to allow your baby to choose you as parents. Here are some of the ideas quite popular on the internet. A detox can be a really good way to get your body back into balance and ready for the IVF journey. Getting rid of all those toxins you have build up in your body over the years. Then a well balanced diet will absolutely help your chances of success. Try and prepare this before the transfer. Take part in the fertility diet to enhance your reproductive organs and ensure good quality blood supply to the uterus. Good quality blood supply to the uterus increases protein and nutrient secretion around implantation, which your embryos will love. Get your partner on the Sperm Diet. IVF fertilisation rates increase with good quality sperm. Acupuncture is now, without a doubt, one of the best ways to enhance your success rates. It will reduce your stress, enhance your ovarian function, and increase blood supply to your reproductive organs. Plan an acupuncture treatment on the morning of transfer and one for the afternoon. Studies have shown that women who had acupuncture before and after embryo transfer had a 44% success rate per cycle compared to 29% amongst those who did not. Other therapies such as reflexology, hypnotherapy, yoga, or massage can also help. Alos the feel-good factor and endorphin buzz produced by regular sexual intercourse can really help to alleviate stress. Take a good quality multi-vitamin and mineral supplement which contains vitamins A, B, E and C complex, zinc, magnesium, selenium, iron and Co-enzyme Q10. which play a vital role in the fertilisation and implantation process. Essential fatty acids are vitally important. Wheat Grass to keep your FSH in check and Royal Jelly to nourish your egg quality. Finally make sure you are getting enough folic acid in your everyday diet as research shows this prevents neural tube defects.
DeleteSurrogacy is an exciting process. It allows couples and individuals from a variety of backgrounds, ages and sexual orientations to build their families. Intended parents who use surrogacy include: Heterosexual couples who have struggled with infertility. Intended mothers who are unable to carry a child. Intended parents who have a genetic defect or health condition they don't want to pass onto the child. Also same sex IP who want to have a genetic link to their baby. Each surrogacy journey is unique though. I think quite often about how to tell my baby he's/she's come to this world through surrogacy..But I'm sure this is gonna be not an easy task. As for the costs, those were the initial issue we were trying to figure out for long. Surrogate mother pay depends on a few factors: Where she lives. If she has insurance and whether or not she's a first time carrier. To take the UK, an average, surrogate mothers are paid a base fee of $30k-$40k, plus additional compensation and benefits. And if you live in the US you can estimate surrogacy costs around $108K-$156K for a journey, exclusive of IVF costs!! The actual journey costs depend on the services intended parents need and the details of your specific journey. Each journey is unique - there is no one cost fits all. So this didn't help to put our mind at ease. We started to search for other options abroad. This very cost matter took us to Ukrainian clinic, where we're currently passing the procedure. It cost us EUR 39.900 for quite an impressive set of services we could hardly see anywhere else for this sum of money. This gave us hope we could do it. The surrogacy process can be complex. So working with an experienced agency/clinic helps navigate the milestones and provides support when you need it most. This is what we expected and actually have been getting so far.
ReplyDeleteJust unforgettable times!A day before official testing I woke up at 3am, took 2 tests and got my BFP!!! I was 13dpivf. I was beyond thankful, grateful, excited...I can't even describe how I felt! The following day we got our official BFP which was almost unbelievable after years of trying and numerous shots. God blessed us finally! (Shot#1 ever with donor eggs, Biotexcom, Ukrainian clinic.)
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to write a post that would have helped me when I was obsessively googling early pregnancy symptoms every other day....I have had NO cramps. No implantation bleeding either. I don't know why I was so convinced that I would have cramps before my BFP but I was wrong. It just seemed like everyone's symptoms included AF like cramps. I have been having a few other symptoms (sore boobs, tired mostly) but I assumed it was the progesterone suppositories. (It still could be, who knows!)
Have been dreaming of this very moment all my life. And wanted to share my joy with you, lovelies.
Hope this helps someone else in the same position!
The surrogacy route is challenging and not that easy to go through. I even found it harder to think for a surrogate in her 2ww (Comparing to when I was in 2ww myself with my son.) Having had a tiny bean inside me made it possible to listen to my body. I could search for some sort of symptoms early pregnancy could reffer to. I could make pictures of bfp once I take a home test or sth. Having a surrogate made things different. I couldn’t participate in the process and this got on me. The only thing I could do was to call her asking how was she feeling..Waiting for every other day to pass quicker..Hoping for that very shot to be successful..
DeleteI’m praying for you to get your good news. Let the whole universe give you enough strength for this waiting. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you and waiting for further updates! Good luck!
Hi, ladies! Can definitely relate. Whenever I thought about ivf I felt a wave of nausea and cry. The thought of seeing a child that is half my husband and half another women made me feel physically ill. I wanted to have a baby with my husband. And I wanted to be a mom!! But I failed as we needed a surrogate and donor’s egg, for his and someone else’s child.. I couldn’t get there for a long time. – How could I have a child that is half him and half some other woman’s running around our house?! I wanted to be ok with that. I wanted to feel that I could love and care for this child. Such decisions are never easy. I gave myself plenty of time. We travelled, talked to others sailing in the same boat, were looking for a suitable place.
ReplyDeleteOh, loves, here’s my intro. I’m 43 yo. Have ‘always’ had fibroids in the uterus. Although fibroids were once removed they did grow back. (This is just a possible thing). Later GP told me that pregnancy was life-threatening for me. I can’t find the words to describe how I felt then. Yet further investigations showed I had aged eggs of extremelly poor quality. That’s why our only route was donor egg surrogacy.
I’ve mentioned above, I personally experienced 2 ivf shots with own eggs which failed completely. Then we used donor eggs for ivf and got bfp after 2 rounds. Donation of eggs helps treat women whose ovaries produce only a few or no eggs (like in my case. Adding their low count.) This occurs mainly in women over 40 years of age. Treatment then with own eggs yields a very low success. Egg donation can be used also for couples with repeatedly low quality of embryos. (Obviously the cause is not on the man’s side.) Some women, who need donor eggs, are the carries (transmitters) of inherited genetic disorder. Or they may be after successful treatment of cancer (chemotherapy or radiotherapy).
DeleteI guess each method has its pros and cons for every individual case. And it’s the most likely to be the doc’s responsibility to chose the best one for the patient.
I’m asking this for my friend. She is in the midst of the 2ww right now (4dp5dt). She was told by her clinic to home test 15 days after ET. And then call them ‘either way’. After reading numerous posts on the boards and talking to some friends of mine (also my experience) who have had ivf done, I am a little nervous that nothing was mentioned about blood testing for her. Almost all people have said (we were too) their clincs gave them a blood test to determine pregnancy. And thereafter many ivf proceedures give blood tests every few days after a BFP to make sure the levels are still looking good and increasing. So the question is the following. Is this the thing your clinic does after you call with a BFP? Just curious as to what the protocol is if you get a BFP (I’ve been through surrogacy like you, but am asking this in case you know or have someone to know this at the clinic).
ReplyDeleteI apologize for my last question as I know it is too much information but out of feeling nervous for the friend I just needed to ask. The progesterone she started taking after ER caused extreme constipation for her. Has it done this for anyone else? And unfortunately she was not able to have any movement up until literally right after her 5dt. (Probably less than one hour after, of course was the first time she was able to go). Do you think this could have effected the ET since it happened right after? Again sorry if all those questions are bothering you. Would be thankful for the reply.
A bouncing baby boy or giggling toddler girl can bring love and life to a household. For childless couples hoping to have a family, adoption or surrogacy can be their best options. The process of starting a family this way can be immensely rewarding, but there are also many challenges. It is best to prepare yourself for a long waiting period, as well as for the costs that each option entails. Make an honest evaluation of your family’s needs. A desire for a genetic link isn’t the only reason more parents are choosing surrogacy. The increase in demand can also be attributed to the desire prospective parents have to monitor the child’s prenatal care and medical history. Another factor to consider regarding surrogacy is the cost. It may vary greatly. Depending on the component parts needed and the amount of time and medical attention needed to achieve a pregnancy. Costs may range from $40k to $140k. In fact, many parents choose adoption precisely so that they might provide a better family life not only for themselves, but also for the adopted child whose need, after all, is apparent. But in the end I agree this is purely the personal choice.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing info. I have pcos and blocked fallopian tubes. My own eggs never worked out with treatments. so finally we used donor egg at biotexcom clinic. They were awesome! Were through the egg donation program twice. Both times successfully. We have our de ivf DD and I’m currently prego with the sibling for her. We don’t know the gender yet but some inner part of me tells it’s a boy. May all the infertile find their way out of being childless. Blessings.
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