Wednesday 11 January 2017

Everyone knows and everyone cares

The last several months were as if not from my life: sometimes it seemed to me that I’ll wake up one day and find out that it was just a dream. At times, it was scary, at times it was incredibly tough, at times I felt as if I’m helpless and losing every little hint of hope.
However, things turned out to be maybe even better than we initially expected. Yes, yes, it’s a bit tough for me to confess but we didn’t expect that our surrogate will get pregnant from the very first attempt. Just imagine: our first IVF ever. I know that so many people keep trying again and again and nothing works so I was very afraid of failure. I know this is not right. After all, hope and positive approach is above everything else, but having heard some stories of recurrent unsuccessful IVFs we just didn’t want to be disappointed at once. And please don’t throw stones at me. It was a tough time both for me and for all of my family: tiring flights to Kiev, waiting, first hormonal stimulation with dozens of painful injections, painful surgery of eggs retrieval and then waiting again. Getting our positive beta test from Biotexcom clinic was really the sweetest and the most expectant present we could ever get for Christmas. Ok, and then waiting again (let’s not forget about this most essential part of our surrogacy journey). They said that normally they do first ultrasound two weeks after beta test but in our case it was several days earlier (am I that lucky again?). They say everything’s fine and they will keep monitoring our surrogate mother and her pregnancy.
Of course, it’s too soon to say “done” because the first trimester of pregnancy is so fragile. I know it from my personal experience: when I was pregnant with Den I was hospitalized with slight bleeding. It was on the 9th week of pregnancy. They said I was running through a big risk of placental abruption and thus losing pregnancy. Hopefully, we called the doctor at once and they did everything possible to save pregnancy. So I know very well how it feels and what it really is.
That’s why I keep thinking about that woman whom I still don’t know but who carries my baby. She definitely has her own child/children because this is their requirement for intended surrogate mothers. So I hope she cares well of herself and my baby as much as she cared about her own pregnancy.

Loads of love on all of you!

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  1. OMG, what a spin of the events!! I just happened to come across this very blog, I wish I could see earlier..I totally understand the struggle you were going through. But felt like couldn't read and then go away. So here's me with some of my background. The truth of the matter is, infertility is painful at any stage. Even the very beginning. I can remember when we very first learned we wouldn’t be able to conceive on our own, I was crushed. I felt so powerless. I felt like a fundamental right had been ripped away from me. I had to grieve the picture of creating our family between the two of us. And I was angry and resistant to the picture that included nurses, doctors, needles, and unanswered questions. We’d been 2 years, several iUis, two surgeries before finally got successful with ivf procedure at a Polish clinic. Our son was 4 yo when we decided to try for a sibling for him. That coming time was an absolute disaster. Our doc found out my eggs became aged so we had less than 5% of conceiving with them. Furthermore I got heart complications due to previous disease. That’s why Dr wasn’t excited about the testing results and told I’d better not risk with achieving pregnancy myself. He said it was too dangerous. So we needed tooking onto plan B. Surrogacy. Still havin several unanswered questions in, I felt that that beginning experience was every bit as painful as the events that have followed. For us both that moment was a huge challenge to face. I’ll explain here. You see, we already had a kid of our own, seems we had to be satisfied and complete. On the other hand, we wanted more..This made me so jealous with ladies having 2,3 – more kids with no special effort. So the question was coming – Why not me?? Me too! I wanted more BUT we couldn’t apply for the previous option! Surrogacy sounded even more painful to my ear…

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  2. It was painful to know that we’ll need at least 2 women involved into making our baby#2! Just imgine how miserable I felt!! Sometimes I start regret things: Why didn’t we apply for ivf earlier? Just after my son was born? Why were we so sure we could go for baby#2 the same way and be successful in 4 years?!! I do feel lie we lost our precious time..and this makes me feel angry and desperate. Poor thing I was to think we can rule over such matters!! Well, needless to say what additive sort of thoughts come to your head when you hear you’ll need a surrogate mother to carry your baby for you..I suppose you know this well..
    So were doing researches. First we looked onto the US options but found it absolutely unbearable for us. Traditional surrogacy programs in the United States cost more than $140,000 USD, but changes in the international landscape for surrogacy have introduced new programs modeled after lower-cost services overseas. These programs include all components of the surrogacy process. A single fee includes all medical procedures (including the IVF, embryo transfer prenatal care and the delivery), legal contracts and filings, the surrogate compensation and expenses as well as the logistical support from the Intended Parents’ agent. These ‘negotiated programs’ range from $85,000 to $120,000 USD, not including an egg donor!! Because of those matters we started looking onto European countries and first found Biotex on essentialbaby board. We got in touch with ladies who had experience with it, they seemed satisfied. We also did several privite messaging to get more insight into the surrogacy in Ukraine and decided to call the clinic. From that very moment the process went on fast we even didn’t expected. This was a huge factor for us the clinic was time wise so we didn’t have to spend another year on a surrogate search or getting hips of papers needed. Biotex guys guided us every other moment and soon they announced we’ll have a baby..
    Sorry it took you a long time to read my post up to the end. I tried to make it shorter but as usual failed. Because it’s really hard to place all the thoughts in sentences moreover when it’s going on about a good qualified fertility center one can be sure to achieve success with.

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  3. Finally, ( I swear this one to be the last one here) I cardially congratulate you with the first steps done. The surrogacy route is challenging and not that easy to go through. I even found it harder to think for a surrogate in her 2ww comparing to when I was in 2ww myself with my son. Having had a tiny bean inside me made it possible to listen to my body. I could search for some sort of symptoms early pregnancy could reffer to. I could make pictures of bfp once I take a home test or sth. Having a surrogate made things different. I couldn’t participate in the process and this got on me. The only thing I could do was to call her asking how was she feeling..Waiting for every other day to pass quicker..Hoping for that very shot to be successful..
    I’m praying for you to get your good news. Let the whole universe give you enough strength for this waiting.

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  4. Oh yeh, honey, I know how it feels to get Big Fat Positive ever!! I'm also sharing my background with you. Together with my amazing dh we ttc since Jan 2015.
    Me: Lindsey, 39 yrs old, diagnosed on ''mild'' endo. DH: 43 SAs. varies between normal to MFI. 
    IUI #1 Sep'15 - BFN and ended up with 2x 20mm+ cysts.
    IUI #2 Dec'15 - cancelled. O'd spontaneously on CD10 before trigger. O confirmed with CD21 test. 
    IUI #3 Dec'16 BFN... moving on to IVF.
    IVF #1 - ER (10 follies, 8 eggs, 6 mature, 2 fertilised), 5d transfer of 1 embie, no frosties, BFN.
    Lap Mar'17 - Dx severe endo.
    IVF #2 – the same ER outcomes. One 5day embie stuck – actopic. They had to remove my left tube.
    IVF#3 – again 1 5day blast transferred. Miscarried 9 wks. Mc caused some further complications.
    Dr didn't feel good about continuing with ivf rounds. She told told us honestly with all those complications we've got with the last failed cycle, it'd be better for us to look onto surrogacy. So we did. We had a long list of possible variants but once stopped at Biotexcom clinic. How could be a disheartened soul fulfil with hope?--Talking to a superb woman, great expert, our lovely dr!! She was so kind to us and took LOOOTS of time to explain things. She was like a fresh breath for both of us. We got prego from the first attempt, I mean our surrogate at Biotex. The moment we got to know about this will be always in my heart!

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  5. Our clinic did care! Always! Once I asked our dr whether i could run when taking meds. (You might know from my previous posts here, I've been trying to get rid of all my extra lbs to contribute the best to the treatment). Here's what she told me.~ Medications you're taking stimulate your ovaries to enlarge as the follicles in each ovary grow. You need to protect your ovaries during this sensitive time and avoid strenuous training. High-intensity or high impact exercise puts your entire body under physical stress. It can compromise your body’s ability to respond to treatment. Your IVF cycle is not a time to push any limitations. The physical and emotional demands of treatment require a special level of self-care. You want to reduce stress of all types including this one. Over-exertion is your enemy here. Running is too hard on your body during this time. (Lifting heavy weights is dangerous as well). That's why you'd better stay appart from running at list for some time whilst treatment intensive.

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  6. Dropping in. Me:43. TTC #1 since Sept' 08
    9/09-12/09: Clomid cycles, BF.
    7/10: Updated HSG, bilateral hydrosalpinx. Bilateral salpingectomy.
    Day 3 blood draws 1/11: BCP started 1/11: Sonogram/ultrasound- 17 follies!
    Lupron start. Follistim added. Repronex added.
    Retrieval - 16 total, 14 mature. Final report 12 fertilized! Day 5 ET, 1 gorgeous 4AA transferred and 6-4AA snowbabies.
    8dp5dt: BFP! Beta#1--120. Beta#2--440. Our adorable Dan was born 36w3d 6lbs 4 oz.
    Long break –further health complications. Here I am preparing for a sibling via surrogacy 2018. Special thanks to the bio texcom staff. Guys are gorgeous at comforting us whenever we have tough moments.

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  7. This title just cought my attention. So never hoped to see all those nice posts here. Ladies sharing their stories, feel so absolutely open for those who cares..Brilliant! I believe I should definitely join. So here's me. Long ramble alert! I've just had an intense few days in ivf world, and now have a tricky decision to make.
    I was hoping to start my round 4 in Oct, but my period didn't come. I just waited and waited. I had half given up. I was so tired with the emotional and logistical limbo (keeping employers on hold as best I could incase I suddenly had to start treatment). During this time there was a couple of days I was frequently experiencing what I can only describe as hot flushes. And I started to wonder if I had slipped into a more menopausal state, even though I'm 38. So I booked a blood test with my clinic to see what was going on.
    I got up early on Thursday to travel and enroute my period arrived! So I told my clinic and came in the next day for blood test and scan. The baseline scan revealed 3 follicles, which is good for me. I've often had just 1 or 2 follicles present. There was also a small cyst they said might need to drain, if it was releasing hormones.
    The next day I get a call saying the cyst is OK. but my oestradiol levels are too high to start treatment, to come back the next day and see if they dropped. Today they said they haven't dropped, they've gone up a bit, indicating that my body has already selected a dominant follicle. and short protocol treatment would not be suitable. This is annoying!! I really wanted to do a full stim cycle to see how my body reacts and if I can get a few more follicles. In June and July my hormones were suitable levels for the flare / short protocol. They say every month is different and there is no real rhyme or reason to it!!
    Right now I'm raring to go. Because of work/life commitments I won't be able to do treatment in Dec. There is a pocket of time in Jan when I might be able to do it, but that is if my period falls in the right time, because I'm abroad for work in Feb and March. So I'm wondering if I just go for it now. But I'm also aware I'm kind of exhausted by the intensity of recent events and from the start I had really wanted to do full stim to do something different from previous rounds. I asked if menopause is looming for me and they said my LH levels are not all that high. Trying to talk to friends or family about this totally boggles their minds. Things are never simple!
    Much love to you all!

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  8. Well, we all know about the benefits of IVF treatment. A couple can apply in case of circumvents reproductive medical conditions such as blocked fallopian tubes. It helps to overcome male-factor infertility via ICSI. To prevent single gene disorders from being passed on to the child via PGD testing. It permits in vitro embryo testing to detect chromosomal deficiencies (This is an extra or missing chromosome) – through PGS/NGS testing. It allows couples to choose the sex of their child through gender selection of embryos developing in vitro. Allows couples to freeze their excess embryos for future FET. Provides family planning options for the LGBTQ community through the use of donor eggs or donor sperm.
    Me - Linda, 35 yrs old. Dh – 40 yrs old. TTC #1 since Nov 2010. DX - damaged right tube & MFI (low numbers). BFP June 2012, m/c 6w1d (ectopic). 8 medicated cycles (Clomid & Follistim) - 2 IUIs, 5 cancelled cycles (Oing on my right side), 1 cycle timed BD - all BFN. IVF#1: chemical, no frosties. IVF#2: BFN, 3 frosties. DR felt uneasy making us through another round, so drew the conclusion we had to apply for the 2rd party's help. Surrogacy un Ukraine, Biotex. Shot#1 – BFP! Beta #1 (8dp6dt) 197. Beta #2 (10dp6dt) 430. 1st u/s 5w6d - It's twins! ANT scan 19w - It's a boy and a girl!! The clinic has created the miracle for us =)

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  9. Everything happens for a reason. Have you thought about adoption? Or Eat more kale/do more acupuncture/think more positively. My favourite was being told to write a letter to my embryo - like that would help my low ovarian reserve. People want to help but often end up saying the wrong things. I found that it helped to reply as earnestly as possible with the intention to educate. Some of my go-to responses were That makes me feel like it’s my fault. Infertility is a disease. I trust my doctors. And We are less in control than we think. You may find, though, that smiling and changing the subject are more your style. I had to remind myself over and over again that it wasn’t my fault. Infertility is a medical condition, and there are no quick fixes. It helped me be upfront with the difficulties I was having, both with myself and with well-meaning friends and family. We had the issues in both. Dh had low quality and count sperms. Me - endo & pcos, adding low AMH. My eggs turned out to be absolutely useless for the ivf surrogacy. So we opted for donor eggs abroad - at Biotex, Ukraine. One of the important things for me was - If you have a partner/dh, be sure to keep the lines of communication open - this will be a massive test to your relationship. Couples therapy is more common than you think and can keep you both on the same page.

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  10. This is quite a sad story. And I'm sharing it to say how important the supportive relationships are and how much they mean when being into infertility strugglings. My husband and I have been TTC for about 5 years. I was diagnosed with PCOS & Endometriosis and had been regulary seeing an RE. I was on my third round of Femara and didn't seem to be responding. I developed a 4 cm ovarian cyst which I had aspirated. My husband had to come with me as I was put under anesthesia and was not able to drive. When we got to the office, he was upset that he would have to wait three hours while they prepped me for the procedure and monitored my vitals afterward. He hardly said a word to me and slept in the chair next to me until after the procedure. This is not the first time he had acted this way. He frequently seemed frustrated when I talked to him about appointments, results, etc. so I try not to. But this threw me over the edge. I was a little nervous about the procedure and I expected him to support and comfort me. I was pretty upset and confronted him last night. I told him that it doesn't seem like he wanted a baby and that I wish he would be more supportive. He said of course he wanted a baby and apologized for the way he acted but said he just wasn't a morning person. It made me worried that he wouldn't support me if I did become pregnant and if we did have a baby..After a couple of months we broke up..

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  11. DON'T give up hope. Hold on… do what you need to do to protect yourself. Skip the baby showers. Cry and cry. Avoid family if needed. Go to counselling, so whatever helps or whatever help that day. But hold on. Please hold on. It can happen!!

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  12. I’m also looking into using donor eggs. I’m so angry at my friends for getting pregnant without trying then feeling like a horrible person for doing it. For me the hardest thing about infertility is that no one can ever understand what you are going through. Unless they have been there themselves. And maybe this sounds terrible but I don’t like hanging out with our pregnant friends anymore. All they do is talking about childbirth, children and how it’s exhausting for them to be pregnant. This makes me depressed. I am happy for them, but sometimes it’s too hard. I'm on the edge of turning 40. We have been trying for about 5 years. My group of friends all started to have babies in our late 20s early 30s. I wanted to hang out with people that didn't have babies (selfish, I know). But there is seriously no one who doesn’t have children! I'm seriously the last one left. I feel like I can't breathe sometimes...

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    1. I'm praying for you. I've read a plenty of positive comments about biotex on the internet. I've recently come across the book by Bianca Smith. It was said she wrote and published her very own book within a few months. The woman mentions BioTexCom where she's successfully passed treatments. Now the book is a bestseller on Amazon. Bianca Smith shared her own IVF treatment experience. The reviews on the Amazon WEB-site are really good! There was also a couple from Germany, 55 and 48 years old, which made their dream of a child come true by using donor egg surrogacy in BioTexCom. The couple has been waiting for the happy day for 17 years! They’ve decided on surrogacy in BioTexCom clinic. Surrogate mother has successfully carried and delivered twin girls. Hope this inspires you.

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    2. Seems our infertility journey is coming to its end – SUCCESSFUL end!! Have been TTC for 2 long years. Dh’s numbers normal. Mine show aging eggs. Another DX: PCOS, blocked fallopian tubes. Several failed shots with OE with no success. To apply for donor egg with IVF we chose a clinic is Ukraine. I'll tell you why we went there instead of any other European country. Firstly, it’s not true that political and economical stability means that people are donating eggs for more altruistic reasons. The donors I saw at the clinic were well dressed and had cell phones meaning they were middle class and not in dire need of money simply to live. I do not believe we help people who are selling eggs in order to live but are rather taking advantage.
      Although the political stability in Ukraine is not stable. But we felt comfortable traveling to its central part. Moreover travel costs are much cheaper than could be imagined.
      Biotexcom clinic is ISO registered meaning they are compliant and advanced technologically.
      The communication from the clinic in was excellent. It was a fairly easy process to arrange and the clinic was very affordable. We added in DE IVF program of 5 shots, meds included, selective reduction and even so it came to 9900 euro. We succeeded in a pregnancy and regret absolutely nothing about using de in Biotex com. Wish you all more success stories to share soon.

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  13. Dear, I'm sorry to hear how this all impacted you. that is heartbreaking.. but so happy for you to take this very option. It gives you the security you need..so many routes its about doing what you need with courage - and you clearly have! Sending you all the best wishes x

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  14. After fertilisation the embryo development is monitored by Biotex embryology unit. The embryo transfer takes place on the 5th day as they are transferring the blastocysts. You receive the protocol of embryo cultivation and transfer within 3 working days after the embryo transfer.The HCG test takes place 2 weeks after the embryo transfer. The surrogate mother has her test in Biotexcom. The results of the test are known the day after the test.

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  15. The first ultrasound scan is carried out in 2 weeks after the positive HCG test by the doctor in charge of the program. The report will be send the same or the next day after the check.
    What you can expect during pregnancy monitorying:
    Monthly ultrasound checks from the 12th week of pregnancy. Reports along with video and/or pictures will be send the same or the next day. For trisomy screenings, results will be send within 5 working days.
    Trisomy 13, 18, 21 – on the 12th week of pregnancy
    Trisomy 18, 21 – on the 16th week of pregnancy

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    1. Here are some general facts about what's going on inside around this time (12 wks scan): The Ears have moved up into their final position. The Mouth is moving and your baby can now swallow. The Heart has progressed and is now beating rapidly at about 165 beats per minute. The Umbilical Cord has evolved and is now transferring all vital nutrients from the surrogate's bloodstream. BioTexCom does great job on monitorying. They know the field.

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  16. During the first trimester of pregnancy your baby will be developing rapidly. Your surrogate may experience many different symptoms week by week. Even though her body is undergoing dramatic changes, it will show very little signs of being pregnant during the first 12 weeks. Embryonic and fetal development occurs quickly during this time of pregnancy.
    So here you are waiting for the 12 wks scan. Your baby is on the go. During an ultrasound, you may be able to notice your baby yawning and waving its arms and legs. Most women have their first scan this week. This is also the final week of the first trimester. During your first scan, your baby’s length will be measured and this will determine the exact age of your baby. This can give a more accurate delivery date. but this is by no means a hard deadline for your baby’s delivery. Very few babies arrive on their actual due date. Importantly, the risk of miscarriage falls as pregnancy progresses and by the end of this 12th week, it’s no more than 1%. Around this time, your doctor may be able to hear your baby’s heartbeat. Your baby’s heart will be beating at approximately 140 beats per minute. The heart is tiny and to maintain an adequate output the heart is unable to increase the amount of blood it pumps with each beat as we can as adults. Instead, your baby’s heart will increase the number of times it beats each minute.
    By then end of the first trimester it is normal for the surrogate to begin to feel a little breathless. This is because her heart and lungs are having to work much harder to supply your body and your baby’s body with oxygen.
    There are so many interesting facts about the baby's developing inside!! I can hardly remember all of them.

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  17. Biotexcom team are pioneers in treating a broad range of disorders that affect fertility in both men and women. It's a sad truth that one in eight couples experience infertility. Or the inability to conceive a child. The reasons for infertility are many and varied. Guys understand that fertility testing and receiving a diagnosis are usually stressful for every couple at the very beginning. So their expert team is committed to making every diagnostic testing as comfy as possible. They offer a friendly family atmosphere. Their compassionate doctors use the results of testing to identify the underlying cause or causes of infertility. Then they work with you to develop a personalized treatment plan. Biotexcom also offers cost-effective treatments and combine the latest, state-of-the-art technology and procedures. They can surely be proud of their wide range of treatments. They offer treatments for both men and women. PGD testings. Semen analysis. IUI, IVF, ICSI. Microsurgeries that restore the normal function of the reproductive organs. And seems on the top, surrogacy treatments. All this is done to give you the highest chances of fulfilling your dream of bringing home a baby.

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    1. Just wanted to share our success story. We've been TTC since 2014, me 40 yo, dh 42. These long 2 years seemed an entire life for both of us in this fertility journey. Have all our shots listed below except the final one in Ukrainian clinic Bio texcom, IVF with donor eggs performed for the first time. Thankfully have got a super supportive husband by my side, all family and friends, thank you supportive helping hands. Had our OTD 26 May which clearly showed BFP which was unbelievably marvelous and made me cry with happiness.
      We appreciate the staff's work, their perfect sense of humor and understanding. God bless you, lovely people!
      Also this is so good to return to work after such a long trip. I'm an architect and feel so much strength and loads of new ideas to bring to life. With our exciting news this is so nice to think about all this! And the last thing here - do not let any of the fertility issue bother you or ruin your life. Just find the way to struggle it and win. Wish you all the best of luck on this path. Hugs Xx

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    2. 7 years of trying, 6 failed IUIs, and an IVF cycle that was called off, to finally have 1 single additional test done that could have told us 7 years ago that it wasn’t going to happen. I was so mad at the universe and everyone around me. I couldn’t hear anything about other people having babies. It was more than I could handle. I played it off that I didn’t like children, just so that no one would ask me why we weren’t having kids. My husband was afraid to talk to me about any of our friends having kids, because he never knew how badly I would take it. Sometimes I wish they had done that one test from the get go and we could have just moved forward vs being in the ‘spin cycle’ for 7 long years. But then looking back maybe it was almost better that it gave me time to start to process. Even once we had confirmed that DE surrogacy was our only path I still needed time. We took a couple years off. We diid some traveling to really see if something really did seem like it was missing. Ultimately for me the answer was YES. We went staright to donor egg surrogacy plan and quite soon were nursing our beautiful twins.

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  18. Oh that's nice to read you've got luck from shot#1. I read often ladies fall prego from the firts shot with them. It's nice news. Seems the clinic's team is aimed at achieving results at once - From what I've already read on different sites and forums is that their ''guaranteed packages'' blow away everyone. It's said on their official site they'll keep on moving unless you get the baby. to me it sounds just perfect. And this is a nice plan to have in case your plan doesn't work. They refund 100% after 5 failed attempts IVF. So you loose nothing. You can spend the money on other treatments, right. We're just at the start of our surrogacy program in Ukraine. Have already visited them. The place's impressive, spacious and modern - we truly didn't expect this. Our manager was kind and smiling, she took time to answer all our questions. I think we'll sign up for standard package, but are still discussing this. May god hear us this time.

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    1. https://biotexcom.com/services/ provides the following information:
      Success package 9.900 euros includes the following services:
      5 embryo transfers;
      In case of 5 negatives they refund the money paid;
      Medical treatment They’re working according to the leading treatment plans,
      proved being efficient, which that allows them not to have an age limit for egg
      donation programs);
      Medications needed before transfer and 3 months after;
      Egg donor fee (bio tex com donor base contains more than 500 young and attractive
      women with proven fertility, meaning that every donor has at least one healthy
      child of her own);
      Sperm donor (if needed)
      Pregnancy monitoring till 12th week
      Embryo reduction (if needed)
      Services of the coordinator in charge of the program;
      Accommodation;
      Meals;
      Transfer from/to the airport and from/to the clinic.
      This package DOESN’T include TESA, TESE.

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    2. And if we're talking about VIP surrogacy package, here's what you get for 49.900 euros:
      Medical tests and checks for all participants of the program (intended parents, surrogate
      mother and egg donor).
      Medications for all participants of the program (Intended Parents, Surrogate Mother and
      Egg Donor).
      Unlimited IVF cycles.
      Pregnancy care (pregnancy monitoring) for the Surrogate Mother.
      DNA paternity test in their partnering laboratory.
      PGD service to detect the possible genetic abnormalities and sex of a baby(s) (if indicated).
      In case of the premature birth all the expenses related to additional medical treatment,
      special medical equipment utilization etc. are covered by them from the first day of birth.
      The child´s doctor attends the baby every day. Besides customers are provided with the
      24/7 phone consultation of a leading English-speaking pediatrician and if needed this
      leading pediatrician visits the baby upon the request.
      In case of miscarriage compensation to a surrogate mother is paid by them.
      Customers are provided with the complete physical checkup of the baby(s) by the focused
      specialists.
      Customers can be present during the delivery and stay with a baby in the maternity hospital
      in separate room until the discharge.
      Needed injections are performed by the coming nurse domiciliary - in the apartments
      where the customers are staying.
      Customers can be provided with the services of the surrogate mother who has already had
      the experience of a surrogacy.
      Legal Support and Paperwork:
      Surrogacy contract elaborations.
      Support on the final stage of the process for obtaining the birth certificate for a baby(s) and
      travel documents for them to leave the country.
      Organization and Coordination:
      VIP service for the clients in the days of visits (no waiting list, etc/.)
      Customers are provided with the babysitter services from 9 o´clock in the morning till 6
      o´clock in the evening.
      Customers are provided with the VIP support package: transportation, food based on the
      restaurant menu, separate apartment, services of attending housemaid, a car with a
      personal driver, smartphone and SIM card of Ukrainian mobile operator.
      Accommodation is provided for four (4) months after birth.

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  19. I've recently come across this useful post on surrogacybiotexcom.blogspot.com. Anastasia, the head of their English department mentioned the most widely spread mistakes the IP may make, and these definitely cause some unfortunate complications to the entire surrogacy process. So these are:
    ''1. You do not read attached documents and do not follow the recommendations there. 2. You do not provide full information, especially when we talk about assessment of possibility of stimulation 3. You do not check visa arrangements between our countries 4. You do not confirm the dates of initial consultation before booking of your tickets 5. In case of ovarian stimulation you ignore our requirement to obtain authorization for hormonal stimulation, especially if there were oncological diseases or heart/kidney/blood conditions. 6. You arrange the things to be finished exactly by the day of delivery indicated in the ultrasound check , without supposition that it might be premature delivery, or normal delivery but on the 36th or 38th week 7. You ignore our recommendations to visit special classes for new parents while you’re still at home and when you come here you’re scared of your own babies 8. You ignore the final checklist of our coordinators – with exact and very clear recommendations what documents have to be prepared from your side for the exit process 9. You do not use the benefits of our emergency 24/7 helpline and become frustrated of coordinators not answering you in the middle of the night 10. You do not provide exact instructions to housekeeping staff and babysitter 11. You do not follow doctor’s protocol and start self-treatment 12. You do not inform us about changing of your plans and/or time limits 13. You expect that the date of the second visit will be calculated during the initial consultation 14. You expect us to do miracles and achieve pregnancy from 1 shipped embryo of poor quality 15. You want to pay and book egg donor earlier than you come for the initial consultation 16. Logistics: arranging logistics the very last moment 17. Incorrect understanding of such concept as waiting time – not from when you signed, but from when you paid 18. When you get scared after program coordinator invites you to the procedure and you have the sperm frozen in the clinic 19. Embryoprotocol date – when you expect it to be sent the same day. Lab may finish their work late 20. Public maternity house doesn’t mean that it is going to be a bad maternity house 21. Please mind the time difference – we work with the whole world'' Thought it might be useful to share.

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  20. Such a sincere writing. Thank you for creating this awesome resourt! We've just had our first consultation at BioTexCom. We had ultrasound scan and consultation this morning. My AMH is lower than I used to have it even last year..And the ovary on my right seems to be inactive. So the hugest burden is paid upon my left one. Upset obviously but trying my best to remain calm and not freak out. My husband has been great but, apart from his motility needing a slight improvement, all is fine his end. We’re going to try our on the whole round #5 IVF surrogacy. This time we're turning back to own eggs.
    Our medical history.. After trying naturally last 2 years with no result, we turned to ivf like most of couples. T was 43 then, ttc1. We got so overwhelmed by all the info out there for ivf and not exactly felt in control of what we knew, what we had to ask before going ahead with a clinic..etc. And there was hardly the one to explain things in simple words, and to give us even more hope we had. So that far, based on my age, FS recommended us to do ICSI and vitrification on Day 5 to test genetic problems before putting it back into me. My AMH was 12. And I was pretty not sure how that compared to others. Ladies had higher numbers, but ended up with bfn. On the other hand, ladies with lower amh levels were successfully getting pregnant and then gave birth to healthy babies..It really takes one, right..I cannot say we were satisfied with our previous clinic.. Though we passed there 2 rounds IVF (OE), and then 2 rounds IVF (DE), all failed..Our doc used to reassure us everything was going on just excellent every other time.. But it wasn't..And every failure broke my heart and self confidence I could ever do this at all..Finally my dear husband said ''Enough!We have to look for other options..- surrogacy''. I'll be thankful to him forever. So reading this I expect to share some good news with you at the end of your journey. Lord's blessings.

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    1. Hi, lovelies! A day before official testing (26 May) I woke up at 3am, took 2 tests and got my BFP!!! I was 13dpivf. I was beyond thankful, grateful, excited...I can't even describe how I felt! The following day we got our official BFP which was almost unbelievable after years of trying and numerous shots. God blessed us finally! (Shot#1 ever with donor eggs, Biotexcom, Ukrainian clinic.) I just wanted to write a post that would have helped me when I was obsessively googling early pregnancy symptoms every other day....I have had NO cramps. No implantation bleeding either. I don't know why I was so convinced that I would have cramps before my BFP but I was wrong. It just seemed like everyone's symptoms included AF like cramps. I have been having a few other symptoms (sore boobs, tired mostly) but I assumed it was the progesterone suppositories. (It still could be, who knows!) Have been dreaming of this very moment all my life. And wanted to share my joy with you, too.

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  21. Hi all lovely people here. Having my tough moment. Any encouraging or hopeful words to share? I am feeling very low today which is what brought me here again. We have been ttc for almost 2,5 years. 2 confirmed miscarriages in that time. 1 of which resulted in a D&C. Although I strongly suspect there may have been 1 or 2 more failed early pregnancies. My body has gone from being well regulated to all over the place since we started ttc. This month my cycle was around 42 days. Last month it was 28 (usually it's about 35 days - when it used to be 28 before this whole mess of a journey to parenthood started). I am a hormonal rollercoaster many months. We spent so much money on ovulation predictor kits and pregnancy kits. I try my best to let go and let be. But this can just be hell some days. So many of my family, friends and their friends have started their families within the past 4 years. Two couples in our core group of my friends have had baby #1 and are expecting baby #2 during the time we have been TTC. It's seems so easy for them all, it just makes me want to scream some moments. I have been dreaming of becoming a mom since I was little. I feel motherhood in my heart of hearts. And I am feeling the pressure of time. like the window of our chance to be parents is closing because this is so bloody unpredictable and I feel like it'll take forever (or won't happen at all). I don't have anyone who shares this journey with infertility in my life. This week I am going in for an invasive, long diagnostic procedure that we have been waiting for for 2 months. I have been forewarned that it is very "uncomfortable" and will take over an hour to complete. I've read a lot of awesome journeys people share. I still hope one day we'll be lucky again. May god help all of us. Fingers crossed for hopeful results.

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  22. 7 years of trying, 6 failed IUIs, and an IVF cycle that was called off, to finally have 1 single additional test done that could have told us 7 years ago that it wasn’t going to happen. I was so mad at the universe and everyone around me. I couldn’t hear anything about other people having babies. It was more than I could handle. I played it off that I didn’t like children, just so that no one would ask me why we weren’t having kids. My husband was afraid to talk to me about any of our friends having kids, because he never knew how badly I would take it. Sometimes I wish they had done that ONE test from the get go and we could have just moved forward vs being in the ‘spin cycle’ for 7 long years. But then looking back maybe it was almost better that it gave me time to start to process. Even once we had confirmed that DE surrogacy was our only path I still needed time. We took a couple years off. We diid some traveling to really see if something really did seem like it was missing. Ultimately for me the answer was 
    YES. Even then it took sometime to get it straight in my mind. I’m sure no matter what you want this family and that you are ok with it, any hesitance will only make the process that much harder. Also you should know if you want to be open about the process or you will be open with your child about how hard you worked to have them. I have found that this subject is a tough one to talk to people about. It isn’t widely accepted for everyone. Just like IVF15 years ago was still only whispered about DE surrogacy is there now. But it’s making progress by people being open and talking about it. Just like this valuable post. Another side of the question is that surrogacy cost in US 50k vs package of 29k in Ukraine sounds really great!

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    1. Since i know how hard this path might be i wonna help others to get more insight or at least say my word of support for them to know they are not alone..And when it comes to terms of egg donation a have a plenty of things to say. Our clinic had a huge donor database, more than 500. All young ladies up to 25 yrs old. With proven fertility meaning they have at least one kid of their own. Healthy physically and mentally. With no genetic diseases in them and their families. (Those are the clinic's requirements they must meet to be in the program). If you're considering moving abroad for treatments, I can share how it passed for us step by step if needed. Feel free to inbox me. I'm wishing you the best of luck with your further research.

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  23. We've already been through 2 failed IUI cycles, 1 failed round IVF with own egg. Currently we are getting ready for ivf#2 with mitochondria donation in Sep with Biotex. Our doc explained us there are 3 basic reasons why IVF fails.The first is that embryo(s) transferred to the uterus was/were “incompetent”. In most cases, this is due to an irregular number of chromosomes in the embryo. In the remainder, it is due to genetic or molecular embryo abnormalities.
    The second reason is an underlying implantation dysfunction that prevents the embryo from properly attaching to the uterine lining. The commonest causes for this include:
    A thin endometrium (measuring less than 9 mm) at the peak of estradiol stimulation.
    Surface lesions that protrude into the uterine cavity (scarring, polyps and uterine fibroids) that create a local adverse environment that prevents implantation.
    Immunologic dysfunction that results in implantation failure.
    The third reason relates to technical difficulty in the performance of embryo transfer, which is a rate limiting factor. It is an undeniable fact that not all RE’s are equally skilled at the performance of this important step of the IVF process unfortunately.

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    1. I’m not sure if even 3 rounds ivf is often enough for moving onto donor eggs. I’ve read a lot women have 5-7 shots then loose hope and turn to donor eggs. I personally passed 2 shots with oe. Then was told oe were not going to work at all so we went on with de overseas (because of more affordable prices.) And did right. All cases are different, one doc said: ''It’s worth to continue trying ivf unless you have enough money:no_mouth: and healthy enough body…Strange enough but really makes sence.

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  24. GP told us pregnancy was too much risky for me – life threatening! He told we’d need to have someone to carry the baby for us – we’d have to apply for surrogacy. You cannot imagine what was going on in my head..So close to giving up and adopting. But once felt this won’t be fair to dh. As this is not his fault he cannot have his genetically related kids with me..Poor thing me, a complete wreck I didn’t know what to do with all that. I did a lot of private cryings at moments feeling so useless. My dh was has been amazing all the time. He never showed he was concerned over my inability to bring him kids. He kept saying he’ll love all kids no matter how they come to our lives..A rock of support!! Love him!! With all time needed taken we began looking onto where to apply for surrogacy. We considered using the UK clinics first, but found some comlications with that. Then we looked onto faraway USA options. It turned out to be not so easy due to states law variation. So finally we stopped at searching the options in the eastern Europe. Found out Ukraine would be just fine so headed off there. Currently we’re passing surrogacy with biotexcom. I’m sorry this post took that long to read. Just couldn’t stop writting as this all is too vivid right now. Feeling every nerve it could drain..Feeling sorry for you, for us, for everyone having trouble conceiving. I’d love to know how the things are going on for you now. I know some time passed from your last visit here, so there must be some changes. If not, then try to seek help from fertility experts. They’ll know better the things wich will suit your very case – iui, icsi, ivf….whatever which will finally make you happy with your little one. Sending you the best of luck and support x

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  25. With my pcos and blocked fallopian tubes our previous doc thought it would be the best to go for ivf rounds with own eggs. Actually we were never successful. Both the cycles failed with no the smallest symptom of bfp. He also suggested pgd as I had a mc. He also suspected me to be a carrier of Wilson disease. It’s a very rare treatable disorder. But again those attempts failed. We went overseas for donor egg cycles.(Wanted to make the treatments more effective. Besides my amh came in less than 3,2.) It took us 2 shots to get bfp, so it proved to be the better way for us. Here’s what I felt during the 2ww:
    Day 1 ET: 2 5 day blasts. Had some rest at the hospital. Then my dh took me straight to the hospital to bed. I only got up to restroom and ate a bit. Day 2: more bed rest as was feeling absolutely tired.I had very slight cramps and some kind of itchy pains in my left ovary. Day 3: Had adequate rest with some crampings. Very gassy, sorry for the TMI. I lost appetite and had short lower back pain. Day 4: More lower back pain, no appetite, crampings, mild nausea, bloated. Day 5: bed rest, woke up at 2 am with severe heartburn. Continued to have slight cramps, very bloated. Day 6: bed rest, slight cramps, lower back pain that would come and go. Day 7: Woke up very early feeling extremelly bloated!! I had a little sleep and felt tired the all day. Day 8: I guess the same symptoms adding some pinkish spotting which lasted for a couple of hours then disappeared. Took a home cheapy on Day 9 – got positive!!
    Right now we are undergoing another donor egg cycle for a sibling

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  26. I just thought we cannot change this fact. there are too little of those who's ready to help you every moment you need. and it's awfully sad when ture friends become the thing from the past. One is lucky to have at least the only one by side, who understands and supports and knows your sincere needs. I've been hanging on a couple of infertility boards since I saw a fertility expert for the first time and she told us I was not likely to get prego on my own. I've met so many people since then. and the only thing I've understood it's always better to hide behind the screen. and never let people too close to your struggles. You might know what i am talkig about.
    I'm currently looking for inspiration everywhere. Great to have found your blog.

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  27. The thing I wanted to say was another side of the ivf process for egg donors. I haven’t thought much about this issue unless used donor egg myself. Twice. Both times successfully. So here are some of the risks the donors might face when being into the programs. Side effects can be due to inadequate reaction of the organism on a surge of estrogen. Swelling in the ovarian hyperstimulation. Frequent changes of mood. Depression. Weight gain. Some put thrombosis to the side effect because of swellings. But it is impossible as before the procedure woman have check-up on the tendency to form blood clots. Often you hear about infection vile during the puncture, bleeding etc. It can happen only because of unprofessional doctors. Development of cancer after invested hormones is the most frequently discussed fear (states that some types of cancer susceptible to increased estrogen), scientist for many years study this question, but link was not found. Such things might happen just everywhere. The point is what the repro center is doing to help to ovecome those.
    Advantages of the egg donation in BiotexCom clinic is broadest base of donors with high performance and European appearance.

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