Hello my dear friends!
Another week passed and we are already in our 17th
week. We’re getting closer to the middle of our pregnancy. With each new week,
I keep reading about how our baby changes and develops, about his new
achievements. The baby is already around 18 cm tall! His movements are more controlled
now. He can touch his face or suck his thumb. He can hear much better now and
can recognize voices. Of course, I wish I could talk to him and tell him how
much I love him and wait for him here, but this is what I’m unable to do.
I call our baby “he” but in reality we still don’t
know if it’s he or she. We received our 16 weeks scan last week, with ultrasound
photos and videos. The baby is growing, surrogate is feeling well. They handled
second genetic scan and the result was good this time as well: low risk for
genetic abnormalities. But as to gender of our baby – no news again. I know 16
week is too early, but we were so impatient to know. All our family is waiting.
We also want Den to know if he is expecting a sister or a brother. As I’ve told
in one of my previous posts, our surrogate thinks it’s a boy.
The next scan and check up is on the 20th
week. Three more weeks to wait. Maybe this time we’ll fly to Kiev to meet our
surrogate and see her growing bump, but only time will show.
As to my other news, Martin got back from his business
trip but we failed to have some good rest this weekend because Den got ill
again and currently I’m taking care of him. It was flu and he is slowly but
steadily recovering. This morning we even went for a walk together. So in general,
I’m a bit tried after this week. Mom’s heart is never at rest when her child is
not feeling well. But we always do our best to help them recover as soon as
possible.
So, I’m closing by now, with thoughts about my two
babies: thee one who is just next to me coughing and with a running nose, and
the second still so small but already so endlessly loved.
Warm hugs
xxx
I hope little Den will meet his little sis or bro soon. Your family is just gorgeous and you deserve being happy. It seems you deal with professional doctors in your clinic and very good surrogate mother who agreed to carry your baby. You're a happy person and I hope everything will be fine for you
ReplyDeleteyour blog are so nice thanks for sharing some information about Surrogacy Ukraine
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Women who don't have a functional uterus or for whom pregnancy poses a serious health risk might choose IVF using another person to carry the pregnancy. Adding some links https://oursurrogacyblog.wordpress.com. Asiu.us. Hope this helps those in need.
DeletePersonally I thought when first told we had to go surrogacy route was ‘How difficult will this be emotionally on me and my spouse?’ So the very first thing we did was reaching out to a professional mental health provider specializing in reproductive psychology. This seemed to be the most challenging process of all..Then I thought ‘Will I be able to trust my carrier?’ This takes a huge leap of faith. So the emotional task for us was to let go of the control of the pregnancy. Yet stay closely involved and allow the carrier to do the best job she can. Another concern ‘What should my relationship be with my surrogate before, during and after surrogacy?’ Now I believe, surrogacy relationships can take many forms. Some parents and surrogates become lifelong friends and even plan joint family vacations years after their journeys are over. Others stay in frequent communication during the process but seek a relationship that is less tight-knit after the birth. Of course either is fine. Parents and surrogates enjoy a variety of types of relationship after the process ends. I guess the specific nature of the relationship is up to everyone’s comfort level. I guess the more you share about your matching preferences during application and consultation phases, the easier it is to match with a good fit. The following one was ‘What if I am upset by something my surrogate is doing?’ For this case I was advised this. The best thing to do when there is a disagreement is to talk to your surrogate in an honest, respectful, and non-reactive way. Speak to her as soon as there is an issue. It’s easy to let small problems get blown out of proportion. If this makes you anxious, utilize your resources to help guide you with the conversation, such as your clinic or nursing staff, or mental health provider. Fortunately up to this moment we had no troubles like that. Well what should I add here? I think I could speak up on surrogacy all day long as there are too many issues to discuss. I guess one more thing is to be mentioned. Probably one of the biggest concerns. ‘Will my surrogate become emotionally attached and not want to give our baby to us?’ This sounds illiterate for my ear NOW but not THEN. Unless you know Ukrainian law doesn’t allow surrogates to keep the babies it does really sound stressful. As there are so many episodes when IP have to struggle for their babies with a surrogate. Thankfully here in Ukraine it’s just out of the question..
ReplyDeleteI can fully relate to your feeling anxious again with the process. Though our cases somewhat differ. To have our son we opted for ivf first in Poland. We could use my own eggs then and dh’s semen which was brilliant. Things changed dramaticaly when we decided to give a try for a sibling for him. Our doc found out my eggs became aged so we had less than 5% of conceiving with them. Furthermore I got heart complications due to previous disease. That’s why Dr wasn’t excited about the testing results and told I’d better not risk with achieving pregnancy myself. He said it was too dangerous. So we needed tooking onto plan B – surrogacy. Still having several unanswered questions in, I felt that that beginning experience was every bit as painful as the events that have followed. For us both that moment was a huge challenge to face. After loads of researches done we decided to apply for surrogacy at Ukrainian clinic Biotexcom. So the same impatience..The same thoughts and feelings though the procedure differed entirely. It’s just nice to have someone to share your concerns with. We’ve encountered some other couples at the clinic. And we were amazed how open were the people about the processes they were going through. We could discuss things while going for a walk or elsewhere. People seemed to be caring and understanding as they were going through the same thing. This was a huge factor. A great support for those facing the things for the first time. Biotexcom patients are very international needless to say. It gained a good reputy among the world’s clinics. And one can easily see why.
ReplyDeleteUkraine is a perfect destination. Just to compare with some other options. Countries where surrogacy is partially legal: Italy, Greece, Russia, Georgia. We can combine all these countries into one group as the queue in these countries vary from a similar factor. Even if they find surrogate mother quickly, everything goes well, your adventure can only begin. The procedure of registration of documents on the child may be delayed for months. The circumstances are complicated by the fact the parents have stay in the country all the time. In addition your child has already been born. And all you want is to be with him at home. But you have to stay in a foreign country, to go to institutions, spending nerves, time and money. So that's very important to undergo treatments in surrogacy friendly countries only. And it's really useful if a clinic provides all legal support. Like Biotex. This keeps you from unnecessary stress.
DeleteKnow all those worries you were feeling. Some nerves and excitement. The big day when all your family can hardly cope with feelings. And yes, finally, another reassurance your baby is growing strong and healthy and that clinic and surrogate take the best care of him. My impression of Biotexcom is that they are a clinic that can get results. Moreover very quickly. The worst complaint I've ever heard about them is that they have slow communication. frankly, we decided we can live with if it means I get a baby at the end. Also, considering we are paying much cheaper, but we were able to begin our first attempt less than 2 months after signing contracts, I couldn’t have picked a better option!!
ReplyDeleteAt Biotex the first ultrasound scan is carried out in 2 weeks after the positive HCG test by the doctor in charge of the program. The report is send the same or the next day after the check. You can expect during pregnancy monitorying: Monthly ultrasound checks from the 12th week of pregnancy. Reports along with video and/or pictures will be send the same or the next day. For trisomy screenings, results will be send within 5 working days. Trisomy 13, 18, 21 – on the 12th week of pregnancy. Trisomy 18, 21 – on the 16th week of pregnancy.
DeleteNow you have to wait for 3 wks more, the time of your next scan. This one is more likely to show whom you're expecting. Baby keeping its gender in secret..sounds funny. I know a couple who were sure they were expecting the girl. And she never used be in the right position for dr to see..They both were so amazed to see the boy on delivery day! Things happen, and they're estonishing!
ReplyDeleteOMG this is so sweet! Your baby's keeping in secret, you should wait. Even though you don't know you're having a boy or a girl -- you must feel the happiest in the entire world! It took one deep breath for me to read yourr story. I don't know the ending but sth makes me feel it's the best one. I would love to know the details of delivery. And if I'm not mistaken you'd applied for 2 shots plan. So you was not likely to be present at delivery..or I'm mistaken. Anyway, I hope that was your biggest joy ever!
ReplyDeleteHello all,
ReplyDeleteI am a married mother with two children that I concieved naturally. However, due to an ectopic pregnancy eight years ago I have not been able to become pregnant on my own. I have had two IVF procedures.both ended in miscarriage at 6wks. I lost my job and my insurance dropped me in the middle of the last IVF. I had 4 snowbabies after the last cycle. and because my insurance didn’t pay the surgical center the entire bill I had to find another doctor. I found a doctor that agreed to transfer all snowbabies for a low cost! My husband and I spoke with the dr about why we wanted to transfer all embryo’s. Firstly, 'cause of recurrent miscarriages. Secondly, for the financial means
He agreed to transfer all, after we paid him. The day before transfer, after the embryo’s were thawed he said he would only transfer 2. I forgot to mention that because the embryo’s were blastocyst he charged us another thousand dollars!!!
Anyway, we had to take the hand we were given and go thrugh the transfer. I got pregnant and miscarried six weeks later.
So, now i have these two snow babies. I wrote the dr and expressed my disappointment, and asked if he would be willing to give us a discount on another round. He wrote back and said “I followed the standards”. Meaning no for us!
I understand that he didn’t want to take the risks, but I think it was a breech of contract. Now he is sending me bills for storage fee’s. What should I do? I really don’t want to give him another penny, but at this point I just my snowbabies back. Any ideas, guys? What would you do??
Unfortunately I cannot be of much help here. But all this story seems some sort of a gamble. I can't say your dr did his best in the circumstances. Why promising to place back all 4 if not do this later? Or was it his well thought plan? (To make you pay some extra $ for the further storage?) I trully don't understand. Poor thing, I'm sorry. Hope you'll get more answers soon.
DeleteWell, we went through all those steps. Approximately six of them. Firstly, they stimulated the growth and development of multiple egg follicles within my ovaries. They used seems loads of fertility drugs (FSH- follicle stimulating hormones). They monitored the growth of the egg follicles through regular ultrasounds and blood tests. Then they removed surgically matured eggs from the follicles on the ovaries. They fertilized the eggs in a controlled laboratory setting through ICSI. Biotexcom team allowed the embryos to grow and develop in the lab. On the exact date our doc transferred a predetermined number of quality embryos into the surrogate's uterus. They wanted her to get enough progesterone to help prepare her uterine lining for implantation of the embryo. They scheduled a pregnancy test which showed bfp!! beta was rising super high! Then they told us we were more likely to expect twins..And then those scans where Los don't want to show their gender!! lol. Amazing!!
ReplyDeleteOMG, that's awesome! Baby pretending not to reveal his main ''secret''. I really appreciate finding this post, especially since every article I've read online about being upset or "jealous" of others always mentions, "of course you're happy for them, but". Yeah? But what if I'm not actually happy for them? I'm sure they're having enough joyous happiness between themselves that they don't need me to be happy for them also..
ReplyDeleteI think it's really petty and rude when people post passive-aggressive facebook posts about their suddenly pregnant friend/family member that they're jealous of. Or say mean things to them in person. But if you really can't deal I think it's perfectly acceptable to excuse yourself from them. And I don't think you ever have to find some magic date at which you're suddenly ok with the news. I get that if it's your sister or best friend, yeah, you might be genuinely happy for them, but when it's a relation through another relation, maybe not so much. It's hard for me not to be upset when I feel we've done everything right and yet the jackass trolling for high school tail is the one who gets to raise a child?! It also just felt super tone deaf to send us a themed super happy text instead of just a short check-in, acknowledging that we've struggled but just wanting to let us know their news. They didn't know I was currently miscarrying but they know we've been pursuing treatments for awhile so a little more consideration would have been thoughtful. I would never do that to someone I knew was having trouble. I would always just tell them plainly and then hope that they were ok.
So sorry to hear this..I remember I booked one of many doc appoints. I was still pregnant. I have never made it to 10 weeks before.. We had actively tried for well over 5 years and never made it this far. The Ultra sound tech and Docs all said it all looked good. At 16 weeks we were still nervous every day. At 18 weeks a lady at work asked if I was pregnant. I didn’t know what to say. So I just said “I think so”! Then I text DH that people are noticing, we need to tell our families. So we told everyone over email because we were afraid to actually talk about it openly. But at 21 weeks we started to believe this might happen. We might have a baby! We were in shock but so happy. Things started to get real and fast. We went shopping for some stuff and picked which room could be the nursery. We started to plan. It was surreal! My sister hosted a baby shower which I insisted be small, because I had hated showers for so long I was not even sure I wanted one at all. We got a crib and that was a real game changer for us. That made it real. We were so excited. We picked out names. Suddenly the years of suffering which left scares seemed a distant memory..
DeleteI'm sorry, hun. I understand what you're going through. I'm 41yo. Finally I started family and we both want to have babies. I had unsuccessful tries TTC for 14 months with no result previously. So we applied for help in a fertility clinic overseas. Tests showed nothing but a low amh. Apart from being 41, and having extra kilos they found no explanation for my infertility. I'm finally due to start injections as soon as my period starts. I'm so over waiting. I'm a little beside myself. I believe I have needle phobia so can;t take it easy at all.
DeleteThis was a little background. So we're struggling to have a baby at 41 yo. I'd say this is because I failed to have the right man by my side earlier. I wanted to start my family first. Then I wasted time on relationship with my ex partner who brought nothing to my life but disappointment. Now I'm blessed to be together with my dh. Yes, this is ripe age and some unknown issues, but it's definitely NOT late to have babies! If only we could pass our ivf cycle successfully..
We all learned about the “birds and the bees” growing up. Getting pregnantseemed so simple: one egg plus one sperm plus nine months equals baby. But as many women come to discover, sometimes it’s not so simple. Conception is a complicated process that depends on a number of factors, including healthy testes and ovaries; healthy and abundant sperm and eggs; open fallopian tubes that allow the sperm to reach the egg; balanced hormones that allow ovulation to occur; and a healthy uterus that allows implantation to occur, among other factors. It’s like a symphony in its layered complexity; every part of the body must be ready to play right on cue. If any of those parts is “out of tune,” infertility may occur. Common medical interventions used to treat infertility include medications, surgery, and assisted reproductive technology like in-vitro fertilization (IVF). But increasingly, couples are turning to alternative therapies like acupuncture as part of their infertility treatment.
ReplyDeleteThe hardest for me was to deal with people's comments. What is good is that YOU can decide how to respond. Sometimes I am nice about it and other times I'm direct and respond with something like, "That's an extremely personal question and is between myself and my partner," or, "I would love to have kids but it just isn't as easy for everyone." Both are perfectly acceptable answers and while I know no one is mal-intentioned with their inquiries, I think sometimes being more forceful in your reply can make people think twice about doing it again to someone else in the future. But be prepared to answer more questions if you acknowledge your struggle publicly. I dealt with this for so long. Over time my confidence increased and I became a little more willing to say something in hopes of educating the well-meaning but privileged people saying these things. At the beginning sometimes my emotions were just too near the surface, or I feared becoming a topic of gossip in the community. Then I kind of visualized the same situations occurring again, and I practiced a brief, easy phrase I could say. Preparing myself with a little weapon! Something like, "One day hopefully I will be so lucky" or "It must be amazing to know that happiness" was enough for eyes to widen and people to consider something they may have never considered before. Then I would quickly change the subject for no further questions, or - as we always seem to do! - to make the moment easier for the other person.
DeleteAnd I feel like them reflecting on their blessings, the possible sadness or struggles of another person, in the context of us being selfless and caring mentors for others' children as our life's career, is a positive thing that might incite changed ways of thinking. Even for those lovely people that truly mean it as a wonderful compliment.
For most parents-to-be, the 20-week anatomy ultrasound is their big chance to sneak a peek at their baby before his birth day. But this test can do more than let you glimpse your baby. It can give you and your doctor a sense of whether your baby looks healthy, or if there may be some issues that you'll need to prepare for before your baby arrives. At this point in pregnancy, although the fetal organs are still immature, they are all formed, including all the inflow and outflow tracts of the heart -- the vena cava, aorta, and pulmonary arteries. The purpose of the 20- to 22-week ultrasound is to look at all of the fetus's anatomy and to determine if all looks normal. Things that can't be seen in earlier scans, such as spinal cord abnormalities, brain defects, heart defects, and diaphragmatic abnormalities, can usually be seen on these scans. The 20-week ultrasound scan can also be helpful in ensuring a healthy and uneventful birth for you/your surrogate. As details of the uterus, placenta, and amniotic fluid can be seen.
ReplyDeleteHaha! I know this feeling! after spending nearly 45 minutes on the anatomy scan, the technician tries to see the gender, but baby has it's legs crossed... and the umbilical cord is piled up as well. I don't think the technician really even tried... I was the last appointment of the day and she was visibly bored looking, so I'm assuming she was tired. She said I'd get another scan between 28 and 36 weeks. Pfft! I can't wait that long! The suspense is killing me!
ReplyDeleteI think every family faces the same troubles. It takes time for people to get used to something new. For me it was also difficult at the beginning to organize my time wisely. Because of the stress and tiredness I felt lack of positive emotions. The whole family tried to help us. After some time we began visiting people together with our baby. And it changed the state of things for better. Once a week we attended special classes for new parents. Talking to people and sharing your difficulties with them really helps to cope with everything. You start thinking that you’re not along and there are people to support you.
DeleteI remember one thing. When I gave a birth to my child I said to the staff: ‘the most difficult stage is behind’. And heard the following reply: ‘no, my dear. Everything is ahead!’ But couples can make life easier. Just make these rules the part of your life. Sleep as much as you can by learning to work around your baby’s sleep patterns. As she only sleeps in blocks of two to four hours, so will you. Try to go to bed as early as you can in the evening so you’ve had some shuteye before she wakes up in the night. During the day, nap when she does, and take heart - as she grows, your baby will sleep for longer periods.
I cannot be thankful enough to you for this nice blog of yours.It was a pleasure to live this story through posts. This inspires us we're on the right way with BioTex. In case, someone might need info concerning own eggs quality and quantity, there's a nice article on biotexcom.com about a ''unique method to get pregnant in your 40s with your own eggs!BioTexCom Center for Human Reproduction offers patients who are above 40 and for those, who suffer from low levels of AMH, an innovative program that makes it possible to get pregnant with their own eggs. Mitochondria replacement therapy is an innovation and a breakthrough in the field of ART and the fertility treatment. This program gives women, who underwent numerous unsuccessful IVF cycles, aged 40+, patients with low mitochondrial functional activity, an excellent chance to give birth to a child who shares a genetic relationship with her and her partner. Mitochondrion is one of the most important components of any living cell, including the egg. In simple words, mitochondrion is the cell’s energy station. Essentially, its work consists in supplying the cell with vital energy for its normal functioning. Women that went through multiple unsuccessful IVF attempts, as well as of older reproductive age, need to restore oocyte mitochondria in order to successfully become pregnant. A woman can become pregnant only if there are functionally active mitochondria in her oocytes. Donation of mitochondria will allow thousands of hopeless women to give birth to a healthy child through IVF using mitochondrial donation. To carry out such a procedure, an egg donor with a high functional activity of mitochondria, a patient, and sperm for in vitro fertilization are required. Healthy functionally active mitochondria are taken from a donor’s oocyte and integrated with the patient’s cells. Next, fertilization with sperm and transfer of a healthy embryo into the patient’s uterus is performed. Mitochondria donation is a unique assistive reproductive technology, which is basically the implantation of a healthy and functionally active donor mitochondria into the cells of an infertile patient, that provides the patient’s cell with the necessary energy for successful pregnancy.''
ReplyDeleteGood luck to all!
I found this awesome article on their biotexcom.com site~
Delete''Nowadays women over 40 and those who had multiple failed IVF cycles can get pregnant and carry a genetically related baby. This has been made possible with mitochondrial donation treatment.
Mitochondria are cell organelles that convert nutrients into energy to drive many processes in organism. A mitochondrion, as a powerhouse of a cell, provides energy needed to ensure effective functioning of organs.
There is often a decline in mitochondria function in oocytes of women above 40. That could be the reason for implantation failure. Mitochondrial dysfunction can lead to multiple failed IVF cycles.
That is why infertile women can get pregnant with the help of IVF using donor mitochondria. So, how does mitochondrial donation work?
Healthy mitochondria are retrieved from a donor’s egg and transferred to a patient’s egg. Then the oocyte is fertilized and a healthy embryo is transferred into a patient’s uterine cavity like in IVF treatment.
It should be noted that a mitochondrial donor is not a genetic parent of a future baby. Donated mitochondria account for less than 1% of the baby’s DNA. Therefore, women who donate their mitochondria will not have any rights and responsibilities for the baby. Mitochondrial donation is anonymous.
Mitochondrial donation program is a breakthrough in reproductive medicine including assisted reproductive technology (ART). Infertility is a global health issue that is breaking records and now surrogacy and egg donation treatment are becoming first choices for women. Through these treatments, thousands of couples are becoming parents. Mitochondrial donation makes it possible for a woman to carry and give birth to a child genetically related to both parents on her own.
Ukraine has always had many advantages in development of the ART industry, in particular, the legal implementation of surrogacy and egg donation programs. Today, a fertility clinic BioTexCom, based in Ukraine, offers its patients a world-class embryological project, mitochondrial donation program. “Three-parent baby” program allows thousands of infertile women all around the world to carry and give birth to their babies!..''
''..Mitochondrial donation or mitochondrial replacement therapy is one of the innovative methods of treating infertility. This treatment program is relevant to women over 40 years old who have treated infertility with IVF (in vitro fertilization), but with no success.
DeleteThese patients have a low functional activity of mitochondria, the most important components of any cell (including germ cells). Therefore, mitochondrial donation, a procedure that is used in infertility treatment at the Вiotexcom reproductive clinic, is an opportunity for a woman to give birth to a long-awaited baby who will have a genetic connection with her and her husband (partner). But first, let’s look at what mitochondria are, which often called “cellular power plants” because of their ability to convert nutrient molecules into energy. Mitochondria provide cells (including female eggs) with the necessary energy for normal functioning and consist of two membranes (internal and external), and also contain their own hereditary material in the form of DNA.
Why is this procedure most relevant for women of older reproductive age? Because for the onset of pregnancy, a woman needs to restore the mitochondria of oocytes first of all, that is, eggs, the number of which decreases with age. If in the female eggs there are not enough functionally active mitochondria, then it is possible to become a mother using mitochondrial donation and by means of IVF.
Fertility specialists find an egg donor with high functional mitochondrial activity for a patient who wants to become pregnant. Healthy mitochondria are taken from the donor’s egg cell, integrated with the patient’s cells, then fertilized with the sperm of the husband (partner) in vitro. A healthy embryo is then transferred to the uterus of the woman.
Thus, mitochondrial donation is an assisted reproductive technology, thanks to which a barren woman can successfully bear and give birth to a healthy baby!''
Mitochondrial donation is an IVF technique that gives families affected by mitochondrial disease the chance of having healthy children. It involves taking the DNA out of a woman’s egg that has faulty mitochondria (the ‘batteries’ that give all our cells their energy), and transferring it to a donor egg with healthy mitochondria. And this information made me really aware: Why does mitochondrial donation matter? Approximately 1 in 200 children in the UK are born with faulty mitochondrial DNA. While many people have mild or no symptoms, around 1 in 6,500 may develop more serious mitochondrial disorders. In many families, mitochondrial disease affects multiple family members. It's important to know that Mitochondrial DNA and Human DNA are different things. It only gives that necessary energy to the oocyst and helps with developing an embryo and make it stronger. DNA is in the core of the mitochondria, which are not used for donation. Therefore, genetically, mitochondria have no effect on the embryo.
ReplyDeletemitochondrial do exponentially more than just creating energy that’s why they are so important. Genomic DNA and mitochondrial DNA are both passed off to offspring. While it is true that the developing fetus will derive most of its genetic material from their parents. They will also have the mitochondrial DNA of the donor. While the genes for some mitochondrial proteins are encoded within the genomic DNA, others are found in mitochondria. Each mitochondria contains at least 1 to 2 copies of mitochondrial DNA and each time a mitochondria multiplies it duplicates its DNA. Mitochondria and consequently their DNA are passed from mother to offspring. So basically if the offspring is a female she will pass on her genomic DNA and the donor’s mitochondrial DNA to her offspring. Normal genetic testing usually targets genomic DNA so no one ever thinks about the other unless diagnosed with a mitochondrial disorder, for example..But anyway this is quite the option to try out. If only the egg is not damaged genetically. And just lacks the needed energy.
DeleteAlso just for general outlook. I've read somewhere the following. It is thought that only females contribute the fetuses mitochondrial pool but some data suggest otherwise. Historically, mitochondrial DNA has been used to match abducted children with their mothers or grandmothers. For example, in Argentina many children were taken away from their families during past dictatorships. Currently, mitochondrial DNA is being used to help match those children with their grandmothers. It's said, mitochondrial do exponentially more than just creating energy that’s why they are so important.
Well, we turned for the overseas options after multiple IVF failures (OE & DE) . Again found several attractive places wich cought our eye. Among those BioTexCom. We've read lots of positive reviews about them and probably the hater's one, like ''I didn't get pregnant after IVF#1, I invested all money I had and got nothing..'' But this didn't confused us much as for the majority of couples this is usually shot#2-3 of treatments when they get bfp. So we didn't take that post seriously and headed off for surrogacy with them. Kiev is a BIG city! It's modern and is full of places of interest. So probably the first couple of days we couldn't but went sightseeing whatever the weather was – we wanted to see just more and more. We've already had our first consultation at BioTexCom. They've got professional team, and it's awesome. They're English speaking, which is a great ''bonus'' we don't have to apply for the interpreter's help every other time. We’re so used to having the things we want instantly, that having to wait can be a little unsettling. I know FOR SURE the two week wait can feel unbearable at times. Many women spend it feeling hopeful and looking out for signs of pregnancy. You might feel disappointed, upset and angry each time you get your period. Some women even start to resent their bodies, convinced that their body is letting them down. Much better is to try to change the way you think about trying for a baby. Stop seeing this as a failing, and try to view it as a longer process. It doesn’t take everyone the same amount of time to get pregnant, and taking longer doesn’t mean you are failing. Positive and negative thinking can have an impact on all areas of your life. If you think negatively about it, you’ll feel negatively about it and eventually negativity will be all you see. Force yourself to think positively, and you may notice that you start to feel more positively about the whole thing. Try to cut the negativity from your life. Change the language you use when you talk about trying to conceive, and think carefully about who you choose to share the information with. If there are people in your life who you think will bring negativity then avoid the subject with them. Choose instead to share your journey with friends who have more of a positive approach.
ReplyDeleteHello everyone. I'm new here. So please let me know if I obliterate forum etiquette at any point in this post! I am 35 and have been quietly considering having a child on my own for a couple of years. And am now getting to the point where I want to start the ball rolling. The problem is, I don't seem to be able to find information that I can understand about how to go about this! I have spent hours on end trawling the internet recently and don't feel much better informed than when I started. I wonder if some fellow could point me in the right direction if there is information you think I might have missed. Or help me by answering some of my questions? #1 Should I go to my GP to discuss this? I don't expect NHS-funded treatment (as far as I know I don't have fertility problems, although I do have poly-cystic ovaries). But is my GP a good place to start none the less? #2 How quick a process does this tend to be? Although I know I'll have little control over exact timing. Am I right to be looking into this now or is it ridiculously? #3 Can anyone recommend a good clinic in Kiev? (Budget is an issue for me, so any recommendations of less expensive - but still reputable - clinics would be appreciated). #4 When I look at clinic price lists, they seem to list every possible investigation/procedure/drugs a woman might need. It is impossible to tell which of their listed treatments are standard. This makes doing the sums impossible. Can anyone give me an idea of what the cost of initial consultation, any recommended fertility tests, etc. tends to be? #5 Is the IVF cost listed on clinics' websites for one attempt only, or do they give you a certain number of chances? #6 I feel that I would like to try IUI before IVF. Is this a common approach to take? Sorry about all the questions. As I said at the start of my post, if anyone wants to point me in the direction of a website that answers all these questions I'll be delighted! But equally, peoples' experience counts for a lot and I'd really appreciate any knowledge anyone might be happy to share. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteNot so long time ago my sweet boy was born. Up to this moment he has been demonstrating his character every now and then. My husband always helps me when it’s possible for him. But for the most part of the time I’m trying to cope with all the things myself.
ReplyDeleteI am exhausted! I’m constantly asking myself: when will our baby sleep through the night? But it’s rather a rhetorical question, because there are as many answers to that as there are babies . I’ve discovered that our newborn sleeps as much as 16 hours a day, but with very short stretches. With every passing month a baby’s nervous system matures. He’s able to go longer between feeds. It is believed that by the time a baby is three months old it may sleep for five-hour stretches at night. A 6-month-old may sleep as long as eight hours at night. Or – they may not like my son. There’s yet another fact: some babies don’t sleep through the night until they’re a year old! I truly believe this is our case. It will undoubtedly take us time to settle into a consistent night-time sleep pattern. But I still wonder how can I help my baby to develop good sleep habits?
I continue writing to these sources because we’ve got a life-long tie to the clinic, Ukraine itself. This is the place where our baby was born. I’d like to share some experienced things. It’s interesting for me whether they differed somehow in your families. To start with, negotiating the first few weeks of parenthood for our family was a bit tricky. It was so from physical recovery to breastfeeding and swaddling. There’s also the emotional side to life after the birth. From time to time our ‘baby blues’ caused my mild depression and anxiety. It might continue from a few hours to a few days. Experts say that it’s caused by hormonal changes in your organism. Besides you cannot rest as much as you can. At this time even a heart-to-heart talk with sympathetic to talk to can help much.
ReplyDeleteThe first few weeks were isolating, even lonely at times for both of us. So, I made an effort to get out and meet new mums. I made an important conclusion: leaving the house every day, even though it may feel like scaling Mount Everest, can really help lift your mood .
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ReplyDeleteHere's my story: my ex partner and I TTC for 14 months without success. He has a kid from a previous marriage. He refused to see a Dr and we finally broke up over it. That left me 38, single and desperate for a baby. Now I'm 41 yo. I have my dh and we both want to have kids. Because of previous failures we decided to consider ivf treatments. Tests showed nothing but a low amh (10.7). So apart from being old (41), and fat (!) there's no explanation. I'm finally due to start injections as soon as my period starts. It's due in a day but I've got no sign. Most eagerly anticipated period ever! I'm so over waiting. It's taken 11 months from seeing my GP to get to this point. And now I feel like my period will never start. I'm a little beside myself. I'm guessing it's not a great sign that I'm freaking before I even start.. Those needles are longer than I expected.
So coming back to the questions. Why struggling to have a baby at 41 yo only.. I'd say this is because I failed to have the right man by my side earlier. I wanted to start my family first. Then I wasted time on relationship with my ex partner who brought nothing to my life but disappointment. We TTC for 14 months with no result and he even didn't want to see a Dr and find out what was the matter. Was it in me or in him actually - no interest, no support, nothing..I should have seen this earlier but otherwise I'd never meet my dh who loves and cares and is extremelly supportive for me now when we're facing lots of new, unexperienced before things. I'm blessed we are together and if only our ivf round were successful our life would be absolutely complete!
Sorry if it's long. Reasons for having kids at 35+ are different. But may God bless us all with little ones we want so much into our lives!
Every option might need more than just one try unfortunately. As we don’ know how our bodies will react to the treatment. We don’t know how comfortable will our embie/s feel with making his home inside us. We even aren’t really sure we are in the right hands with the clinic unless they say ‘you’re/ your surrogate is pregnant’. All possible thoughts coming up to my mind. This is how it felt for me. One minute, I was full of hope. I said, “This cycle will be the one that works! This will be my miracle month!” Then, the next minute, I might see only doom and gloom. “What if this doesn’t work? What if nothing ever works? What if I live the rest of my life lonely and depressed, a shivering mass of jelly relegated to the back corner of my bedroom closet, forever?” Here’s some of my background. I should have written this very post before, but felt great need to ask for a friend first. So here we go. The truth of the matter is, infertility is painful at any stage. Even the very beginning. I can remember when we very first learned we wouldn’t be able to conceive on our own, I was crushed. I felt so powerless. I felt like a fundamental right had been ripped away from me. I had to grieve the picture of creating our family between the two of us. And I was angry and resistant to the picture that included nurses, doctors, needles, and unanswered questions. We’d been 2 years, several iUis, two surgeries before finally got successful with ivf procedure at a Polish clinic. Our son was 4 yo when we decided to try for a sibling for him. That coming time was an absolute disaster. Our doc found out my eggs became aged so we had less than 5% of conceiving with them. Furthermore I got heart complications due to previous disease. That’s why Dr wasn’t excited about the testing results and told I’d better not risk with achieving pregnancy myself. He said it was too dangerous. So we needed tooking onto plan B. Surrogacy. Still having several unanswered questions in, I felt that that beginning experience was every bit as painful as the events that have followed. For us both that moment was a huge challenge to face. I’ll explain here. You see, we already had a kid of our own, seems we had to be satisfied and complete. On the other hand, we wanted more..This made me so jealous with ladies having 2,3 – more kids with no special effort. So the question was coming – Why not me?? Me too! I wanted more BUT we couldn’t apply for the previous option! Surrogacy sounded even more painful to my ear..This meant we needed 2 more women to create OUR baby!!! This was unbearable..I couldn’t imagine my dh involved with other women at all! It took quite long for me to get there..But right now I have nothing to regret about. Our surrogate is heavily prego with our doughter. This is all we’ve been dreaming about. Biotexcom guys are awsome! They managed to do it from the very first attempt which surely a huge luck with infertility treatments. We’ll be always thankful to all of them for the hope they’ve given to us!
ReplyDeleteIvf is always draining physically & emotionally. And this is so unfair you have to struggle this issue now. We’ve got 6 failed iui cycles & 1 ivf called off due to an additional test undone. With this very test results we were told this was not going to happen at all. GP told us pregnancy was threatening for me & having had all risks evaluated he said we’d need to have someone to carry our baby for us. So for us this became a surrogacy route purely. Getting there was quite difficult for both. Right now we’re undergoing surrogacy program in Ukraine. I would love to know your baby and you are fine. All the best!
ReplyDeleteI know a lot about surrogacy due to my friend’s journey which ended successfully 2 yrs ago in Ukraine, biotex. Unless your eggs are good enough for the procedure you can use them and dh’s sperms and have a genetically related baby. I guess this is the thing everyone cares about. I was not so lucky.. My eggs became of extremelly poor quality and quantity. Our new dr told they won’t do with ivf. So we turned to donor eggs. Though I would love to have them my own ones…Life plays different tricks on us. We have to be strong to survive. Moreover, to be strong enough to find ways out and live a happy life.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, i'm sorry you're facing this.
DeleteI guess my case differs. it's endo & pcos, apart from my being 45 yrs old. We all know the success rates drop eventually the older you get..so no need to tell more. The thing I experienced with lapo. i did two with a half year break. In my case none brought us results. I mean no actual improvement to the whole situation. Well, one of my tubes got unblocked but that was not enough. dr adviced doing one more to open my left one. Unfortunately all in vain. In the course of treatments they had to remove my left ovary which became another obstacle..We used donor egg in the end and enlarged our family with a LO. All the best of luck to you.
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad you have a supportive dh by side. It's so important to have someone to relay on and if it's your husband you're really lucky. Mine has always been the rock of support for me. Even when I felt heartbroken, crushed and knocked out from normal life he was the one to say ''Come on girl, we'll do it!'' We've been through ivf rounds with own eggs - all unsuccessful. Did 2 lapos which brought no actual result. then turned to donor eggs abroad at biotexcom. After years of trying and failed treatments we got luck with the 1st donor egg cycle. Saw bfp for the first time in my life!! Everyone's path is different but every step is a step closer.
IVF is very expensive and is not 100 percent successful! So IP should know all of their possibilities at different clinics. IVF requires the injection of expensive fertility medications. so why not to know, for example, that Biotexcom has packages where the meds price has already been included. All those medications might cause discomfort. so it would be nice for IP to know they are going to be treated well and taken good care of. Also treatments may cause undesirable side effects. So IP must get well informed about them and have sth like support line. Then cycles require several office visits to monitor the patient’s progress through ultrasound imaging and blood tests. All the patients should feel at comfort with the staff they relay on in this journey. Taking all those things into consideration, I cannot understand why not let people know about all the benefits they can have when using Biotexcom clinic. That's absolutely understandable the clinic's using Youtube channel and other resources just to let others know.
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