Christmas and New Year holidays is one of the best
time of the year for me and for all of my family: lights, Christmas tree,
presents, relatives, friends, tasty food, good movies and festive mood. This year
we got a very special present on New Year’s Eve – our surrogate’s ultrasound
confirming that there is one healthy pea that has stick and develops normally
in the uterus. Our baby! Still so tiny and so far away from us, but still ours.
And we love him/her immensely. Could there be a better Christmas surprise?
I’m still thrilled and worried for every single detail
about our surrogacy pregnancy especially now when I know the clinic is on
winter holidays. I hope our surrogate and baby feel well.
My one and only wish for all those couples trying to
conceive is to finally have their long-awaited baby in 2017.
Let all of us have a fantastic year!
Hug you all!
An absolutely nice thing you’re doing! Helping people for nothing is just rewarding. Our son is an OE IVF kid. I’m glad we’d been lucky to have the genetic relation saved. Our next time was not such a luck. Our dr told us 2 dreadful things which I thought would drive me crazy. #1 – my eggs were old, their quantity & quality was extremelly low so that he gave us less than 5% chance of conceiving with them. #2 – my heart was not working properly to carry pegnancy at mid & late term. This was the way straight to surrogacy. Well what comes to one’s mind hearing ‘You need someone to carry your baby for you’..For many couples around the world, surrogacy represents a SECOND chance at starting a family. It is a very private thing. It was frankly the only way for my husband and I (Have been together for nearly 15 years) could have the second child that was half him. (Unfortunately not half me.) So, for us, it was absolutely the way to go. Though it took time to get there. It was a difficult decision and my heart goes out to every woman out there who’s dealing with any infertility issues and wants to have a baby and can’t figure out how to do it. But I like to say there’s lots of ways to being a mother … There are many paths to having a family.
ReplyDeleteAlso most surrogates understand the potential risks and sacrifices involved with becoming a surrogate, but choose to do so anyway because of their sense of compassion and altruism. Personally I find nothing wrong with commersial surrogacy. Every job must be rewarded. Surrogate youngies go through enourmous testings, they may face complications (Both physical & emotional), so I’m sure they must have benefits afterall. The second question is whether all those proportions are done right. For me paying $150k was out of the question – Too expensive being paid to agency rather than to a surrogate (which is in the US for example). In Ukraine the picture seems more vivid. Our surrogate at Biotexcom is a young healthy attractive lady of 21 yo. She has a daughter on her own. And currently she’s carrying a baby girl for us (the 3rd trimester)….
I sencerely congratulate you!! I believe your surrogate has already delivered your beautiful daughter..May all your new family be happy altogether! $150k for surrogacy plan in the US is too much!! I'd never be able to pay this sumof money..This was actually the first reason why we turned to surrogacy in Ukraine, BioTexCom in particular. Their affordable prices. Moreover the set of services they offered for those costs. I could hardly see sth similar among other clinics. We signed up for the Standard package just like our kind blogger here. We paid 40k euros roughly speaking. (Far too away from those $150k, right?). Even though we're just at the beinning of our program (I've been stimulated. I'm gonna pass ER procedure in a couple of days) I do feel this place creates wonders. We also met other couples here undergoing treatments. the only bad thigng I've used to hear from time to time was that they were a bit slow as for the initial answering. But things changed for all of them when they actually came in to the clinic and got their cycles started there. I personally don't mind. Moreover, no wonder. The clinic's so much popular nowaays among foreigners. Hope it creates my miracle soon too.
Delete''Still so tiny and so far away from us, but still ours.'' Just like the note from my memory!! I was a kind of a mad mom-to-be. I wanted to be involved in every other day of my baby's life. Though my son was far away and furthermore growing inside another woman! Crazy surely..I tend to be as close as I could. Once I called our surro at 24.00 just because I had a bad feeling. I felt like sth was going to happen, but our surro told us everything was ok and actually she didn't expect we weren't sleeping at that time..I realized how silly it was of me to have called her this late!! When our boy was sleeping or sth and I made her worry. DH told he wouldn't allow me to do this again and that I had to find out how to cope with my ''worries''. We both took some days off and travelled to Germany. My dh's cousin and his family lives there. It was the most peaceful time ever! I think I rested well then and our surro too, from my calls at least -lol.
ReplyDeleteOne of my New Years fell apart, as I was unlucky to get another negative from our oe cycle..And guess what they told us (previous clinic we soon switched)-your uterus is not good enough! you didn’t take enough bed rest! you did not follow all our orders!! Such answers did nothing but increased our agony. because we started believing that we are the reason for the failed IVF!! And the most important question for me then was: my IVF cycle failed- what should I do?..
ReplyDeleteTry again! This is the only good answer and a good IVF doctor’s answer will be exactly this. Of course, he may make changes, based on your response, and he will explain these to you. A good doctor will not order a bunch of expensive tests after each IVF failure and doctor will make sure that his patients have realistic expectation about the entire IVF process. If you want to be a mature IVF patient, educate yourself about the process. This will help you to have sensible expectations of IVF treatment. It will protect you from an emotional breakdown; and from unnecessary tests and treatments.
This is going to be our first New Year we'll spend altogether! That's awesome!! We've been through so much that I could hardly imagine it would be possible one day to expand our family with twins! Thanks to biotex, guys are amazing. We had to deside between these two common methods: During insemination, healthy sperm and mature eggs are mixed and incubated overnight. In ICSI, a single healthy sperm is injected directly into each mature egg. ICSI is often used when semen quality or number is a problem or if fertilization attempts during prior IVF cycles failed. Dh had some swimmers issues, so finally we applied for the latter one. They found a superb surrogate for us. So soon we were ready to actually start the process. We've tried assisted hatching with my last cycle. (About five to six days after fertilization, an embryo "hatches" from its surrounding membrane, allowing it to implant into the lining of the uterus. If you're an older woman, or if you have had multiple failed IVF attempts, like in my case, doctor might recommend assisted hatching. This is a technique in which a hole is made in the zona pellucida just before transfer to help the embryo hatch and implant.) But all this scheme didn't work out for us unfortunately. This time we knew we won't need this to be repeated as our surrogate was a young woman with perfect health, and more likely to provide her beautiful home for our beans for the following 9 months lol.
ReplyDeleteWhen you’re struggling to start a family, the world-jam-packed with baby bumps and family parking spots—seems designed to cruelly remind you that there is something missing from your life. Whether you’re having trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant, regular life can be a little alienating. And friends who already have children can feel like strangers. For those who know someone with pregnancy woes, it is very important to tread lightly when approached for a chat. Because even a well-meaning friend can seem callous when offering up advice. Unfortunately, there is no right thing to say to someone who is having a hard time getting or staying pregnant. Though listening is always welcome. But there are definitely a few things to avoid saying. We were so tired of hearing 'Relax, it will happen' so often and it was so cruel for guys to say. Or 'Don't worry - you've got a lot of time' and some other 'useful' phrases. They're really killing. So probably the best way of saying sth is just thinking twicebefore doing it. I'm sure no one can relax on this path or not worry..This is so silly! When both of you have fertility issues and you're planning to use donor egg to create embies for ivf surrogacy.. - that doesn't seem easy, eh??? I'm glad I've found this source of information and some kind ladies here are sharing their stories. I have definitely a thing to add..
ReplyDeleteI guess not everyone understands how painful this issue could be. Both emotionally and physically. If we google it we'll find sth like 'A hysterectomy is a surgical procedure that removes the uterus. There a several types of hysterectomy, depending on what’s removed:
ReplyDeleteA partial hysterectomy removes the uterus but leaves the cervix intact. A standard hysterectomy removes both uterus and cervix.
A total hysterectomy removes the uterus, cervix, and one or both ovaries and fallopian tubes. Hysterectomies are performed through either the abdomen or the vagina. Some can be done laparoscopically or with robot-assisted technology.' Sounds like a ton of bricks thrown..
In the weeks following the hysterectomy, one may notice: Pain at the incision site. Swelling, redness, or bruising at the incision site. Burning or itching near the incision. A numb feeling near the incision or down your leg. If you have a total hysterectomy that removes your ovaries, you’ll immediately begin menopause. This can cause: Hot flashes, vaginal dryness, night sweats, insomnia. For the majority, though, pregnancy and menstruation are crucial aspects of femininity. Losing the capacity for both in a single procedure can be a lot to process for most women. Even if some are excited by the prospect of not having to worry about pregnancy or menstruation, conflicting feelings do come up after the procedure! I truly sympathize you, Agnete. May God bless you on the way.
That was nice!!
ReplyDeleteWe did IUI’s and popped pills and ran more tests and had so much scheduled sex. We did this for years! We discussed adoption and fought about it all the time!!! It was so hard. Life was not good. We did IVF it failed. We couldn’t afford it, but we did it again. My younger sibling started families. I was an aunty over and over again. I again was fake happy and would cry myself to sleep all the time. I avoided the annoying rude family who would ask me constantly why we don’t have kids yet (I still kinda hate them).The end was near, we had one frozen embryo left. I was convinced we just needed to get it over with and move on with our lives..Not sure what that meant at the time. But I had convinced myself it was just over and we needed to transfer that last embryo and decide what we would do next. Maybe sell the stupid big house with empty bedrooms and move to a condo in the city. I didn’t know what we would do next because having a baby was all I had thought about for so so long. For years and years a baby and a family was the plan!My life had been on hold for so long I don’t know how to think of anything else!
This very New Year we were actually waiting for our surrogacy at BioTexCom to begin. Have been satisfied up to this moment. I remember the torture of not knowing where to go and what to do when we were first told of my inability to carry kids myself. Such a heartbreak I'd wish no one to face the same. No one deserves infertility. the point is that women can still feel the pregnancy themselves. me - not. Even this natural right was stolen from me. We had to apply for the surrogate's help to have this faint hope of having kids one day..So we've actually started the process. I'm a couple of days before ER. Thanks to God, I can still use them with ivf. Dh is perfect as well. He seems even more delighted over the process than me. I supose just 'cause of my jealousy that another woman will play my role..Well I have to keep busy somehow to think of this less. I believe I'll produce some gret eggs for the fertilization. I know nothing about our surrogate, but hope she's nice and lovely. The first time we're going to meet her is on the date of 12wks scan. If only the things worked out right for us..Fingers crossed for everyone on this path!!
ReplyDeleteOmg, what good news you had on the New Year's Eve! That's amazing and the true blessing for all your family. Honey, you deserved this well. Sailing in the infertility boat for years brings no joy. I've been in this myself for long years. Still waiting for the very moment I could post the same - me/my surrogate is pregnant! I'm praying for this every other day. Seems God does not listen to me. But I'm stubborn) Well, this is going to be our last 5th round IVF. Dh and I both decided this gonna be just last shot IVF - If it fails we won't stick to it any more..We feel like we've exhausted this plan well. I have no reasons to feel like this #5 is gonna be failure..All I know is that I've got pretty fed up with stims. My body rejects them. And I reject everything concerning pills, injectibles..I'm just so tired of all these..Maybe that's why it looks like I'm not gonna work out this cycle either..What makes me glad is that it's 5 shot package, so we aren't paying any extra fees.
ReplyDeleteWell, our next step to be is surrogacy. I retend it to be undergone somewhere abroad. Somewhere like Ukraine, I guess. because I've already read a lot of positive reviews from posters on different infertility boards. People come there from all over the world lol, I know it's not, but Ukraine seems to be the surrogacy mecca for thousands of the infertile..Well, law there is great. Your baby is YOURS from the moment of conception. You don't have to go to the court. You just have to prove through DNA test your dh is your baby's father. PDG can be used for sex determination - Seems this is not common for the majority of countries where the procedure is not banned at all. To me it's very important, as all women from my family are the carriers of a rare genetic disease. And it's stransferred from a woman to woman. It has zero effect on men. That's why it's preferably PDG for sex determination for us. I think I've studies well all the information from the BioTex official web site. Also this awesome blog - surrogacybiotexcom.blogspot.com which is full of useful information. We've already contacted a lot of people who've been through treatments with them. The majority of the reviews are positive. This gives us hope.
I’ve got plenty of things to share concerning iui and ivf options, surrogacy. I’m 43 yo, currently living in the UK. We’ve been ttc for 7 long years, you know, finding time for the career, a new house and cars first, which was absolutely unworthy as it turned out we’d never be able to have kids without med help. We’re through 6 failed iui cycles. 1 ivf shot cancelled because of one single additional test undone. That very single test could have told us years ago that it wasn’t going to happen at all! I was feeling so miserable and ‘robbed’ with the previous clinic which sold us hopes along with unappropriate iui shots. That was the most disgusting thing of all. I felt useless and devastated and crushed…every other sort of negative feeling. Dr told me I had fibroids in the uterus. Although fibroids can be removed they can also grow back. But on the whole situation those fibroids play the smallest role..
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